Episode 104 – Mr. Friendly

Few topics create as much emotion among gay men than discussing HIV. We have been living with this disease for over 30 years. There are a lot of attitudes surrounding the virus itself, men who have HIV, men who don’t have HIV, how we talk about sex, and how we approach ourselves and others with the precautions we take to slow the spread of the virus.

Joining us tonight is Dave, the gay man who started the Mr. Friendly campaign to help us realize when we’re stigmatizing and stereotyping other people on either side of the seroconversion equation.

Check out Mr. Friendly’s web site.

And here’s Mr. Friendly!

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Show Notes

Discussion Topics

  • Shout out to Ruff. Thanks Ruff!
  • Letter from Gymratter
  • In the news: Don’t touch Coco like that!
  • Mr. Friendly
    • What is it?
    • What does the symbol look like?
    • Why was it created?
    • All of the various stigmas and assumptions related to gay men and HIV
    • Why “Know Your Status” encourages stigma
    • Discussion about HIV within the leather community vs. the larger gay community
    • HIV status and desires in online profiles
    • The endurance of HIV stigma for 30 years in the gay community
    • An HIV test is not a shield
    • In the news: How does “undetectability” affect guys’ desire to have sex without condoms?
    • How to get Mr. Friendly stuff? Go to the web site to find pins, dog tags, t-shirts, and lots of other cool stuff.
    • How to create a Team Friendly
  • Letter from Starky Boy
  • In the news: Too many orgasms? Really?

Quotable Quote

Female Butt Baggies

About Our Guest

Dave was honored with the title of Mr. Michigan Leather 2009, served on the CLAW board for 5 years and has judged IML, MIR, and GLLA. He has completed many food fetish presentations, countless HIV-related classes and enjoys flogging “newbies” at leather events while feeding Little Debbie snacks (hence the name Mama’s Nutty Buddy). Passionate about reducing the stigma of HIV, Dave currently works as an HIV Counselor/Tester and is the creator of the anti-stigma campaign “Mr Friendly.”


Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Hump Gear Butt Plug by Perfect Fit.

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Episode 103 – Cray Cray

There’s a lot that goes on each evening when we record a show. Stuff that y’all never hear. Our trusty engineer has gotten into the habit of recording our preparation for the show and sometimes what happens after the end of the show, too, so there’s a lot of great nuggets that get caught on tape.

Two weeks ago, we had Tyesha on the show. And there are a ton of nuggets caught on tape. We decided to edit them together (and take out some inappropriate parts) and let y’all in on some of the craziness of the production of an episode of the NoSafeWord show.


Slyy here. Shhhhh! Don’t tell anyone. That’s why I’m whispering. But I just want to state two things for the record. First, it’s never my fault. Second, the divas who think they run the show can be really condescending sometimes. Okay, that’s all.

Quotable Quotes

“Look! It’s a poodle.”

“Will this turn me on? Yup! Well, that’s embarrassing.”

About Our Guest

Tyesha is a lover of grapefruit, chicken wings, and bad sex. She is a hilarious Pig in Pearls. Nothing more needs saying. Check out Episode 101 for Tyesha’s full bio.


Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature The Spyder Gag. It’s a Mr. S Exclusive! If you didn’t pick one up two weeks ago, you have another chance!

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Episode 102 – Gear Eye for the Queer Guy

It’s no secret that many of the NoSafeWord crew are into gear. We get a lot of questions about gear. So for this episode, we talk all about gear. Show Notes Quotable Quotes “I don’t like hotel pillows.” Discussion Topics Sports uniforms Traveling with gear Dealing with TSA Budgeting Letting gear go – gifting, selling, […]

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Episode 101 – That’s So Tyesha

Tyesha returns in this episode. We had a blast with her the last time, and the ride was pretty wild this time around, too. You do not want to miss this one. Tyesha would like to take a moment for this public service announcement: Wash your hands and brush your teeth. That is all. Thank […]

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Episode 100 – Ode to the Penis

Just, fucking, suck it! I want to be fucked, not tickled. It’s kinda veiny and shafty, and at the end of it is a puppy. I would imagine it’s like fuckin’ a lasagna. Stupid as rocks, but great in bed. Is there anything ever too big? Yeah. What did you do with it? Sucked it. […]

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Episode 99 – Sir Yes Sir

Being a gay kinky pup in the military can be a bit of a balancing act.  Thankfully, it is much less of an issue today than it has been in years past.  In this episode, we talk with three of our fellow kinksters who are or have served in the military: Pup Jimmy, who is […]

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Episode 98 – Live at SEBB

We were invited by the producers of the Southeast Black and Blue event in Atlanta to come down for a fun live show. Both Daddy Tony and Sparky were asked to do some classes; Daddy Tony did a demo class on flogging and another on building a toy bag on a budget, while Sparky lead […]

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Episode 97 – Public Pot Sex

Hi folks. Our engineer is feeling unappreciated. He recently asked if anyone actually reads these blog posts when we post a new episode. I tried to tell him that everything was okay, that yes, in fact, our loyal listeners do appreciate all of the effort he puts into writing up the show notes. I even […]

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Episode 96 – Campy Puppies

The puppies are invading! Quick, grab ‘em by the collar! For this episode, we have a bunch of puppies (and one kitty) telling us about a bunch of upcoming events. There is a contest coming up in about two weeks for 2015 Northwest Puppy and Handler. We touch on some of the recent passings in […]

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Episode 95 – International Puppy

Last weekend we heard of the wonderful news that a great pup and dear friend of the show, Pup Figaro, was named International Puppy 2015 at the International Puppy Contest. What a wonderful representative of our community and of the pup universe! We immediately contacted him to see if he would be willing to come talk […]

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