About DVous1

Vous1, otherwise known as Damien has lived in the Pacific Northwest for 7 years and before that was a corn and cheese-fed midwestern boy. Shedding his innocence upon his arrival in Seattle, he was ushered into the kink world by his partner Sparky and with the help of several other important Daddies and boys along the way. DVous1 continues his growth as a switch and always looks forward to meeting new people and have new experiences!
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Episode 235 – Harassment Addiction

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This week we discuss what’s in the news and answer a couple letters from our listeners. In the spirit of #MeToo, we condemn the assholes the assault others for their own pleasure and power.

 Show Notes

  • What Now?
    • Don’t fuck 14 year olds! Don’t touch people without consent!
  • In the News
  • A listener asks if it’s acceptable in the community to be a Sir if one hasn’t served already as an “apprentice” to another Sir.
  • Listener ToyTorture sends us a note and mentions “kink fatigue,” but does not send a dick pic.

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Ungagged Episode 26: All Glory to Hypnotoad

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This episode of Ungagged is all about hypnosis. We discuss in detail the stages of hypnosis, things to keep in mind before considering it, and resources to help you get started.

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This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature Front Buckle Gag.

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Episode 229 – Clique Schisms, Part 2

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In the heat of the end of summer, we are here to update you on the craziness of the last week.

 Show Notes

  • In the News
    • Man lands modeling career thanks to his genetically rare different colored eyes seen on his mugshot posted on Twitter.
    • Kathy Griffin is no longer sorry about the famous photo of a fake severed head of Donald Trump.
    • The “crying nazi” speaks out about his mistreatment by the public.
    • Male sex workers get sometimes bizarre requests from their Johns.
  • We continue our discussion of a Telegram chat by a listener from Episode 229 – Clique Schisms, Part 1
    • We discussed this letter from the perspective of defending the boys’ point of view. Now we wanted to discuss the other side of the argument.
    • Using the term “sleazy” marks a view of older men hitting on younger men that shows a bias against older men
    • Age range preferences posted on profiles publicly is discriminatory and denegrating
    • Sparky and Tony discuss some of their experiences with older men and now as older men with younger boys.
    • Sometimes men, regardless of age, can be sleazy. Older men are sometimes painted with a broad brush.
    • Infighting among our community is counterproductive to our shared common goals.
    • We should do what we can to eliminate “Us vs. Them”

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Episode 228 – Clique Schisms, Part 1

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In the heat of the end of summer, we are here to update you on the craziness of the last week.

 Show Notes

  • What Now? 
  • In the News
    • There was a death at a British kink festival in the woods, Flamefest. There were nipple tassles, witches, and hedonism.
    • Queer Cripple Andrew Gurza is building the group DisabilityAfterDark to open up about the intersection of disability and sex.
    • When introducing your pubescent children to sex, don’t for get anal intercourse. Don’t expect your school’s teachers to broach this topic appropriately.
  • With a Telegram chat message from a listener, “My leather club is having a midlife crisis?” we discuss cliques in the gay kink community.
    • Certain kinks and sub-communities draw certain age groups and personalities of people
    • Puppies are a great place for younger and less experienced kinksters to join, and some older guard groups  feel resentment for the loss of past ways boys would publicly join the leather community
    • Gender bending boys still see widespread ostracism from the leather community as well, even as attitudes improve
    • We must evolve for the future, we cannot hold onto purely past ways of doing things and expect them to carry into the future
    • Leather contests need to be brought into a modern day purpose
    • Certain traditions like collars are evolving and shouldn’t be used as a wedge to push new people out of the community.

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Featured photo is Mr. Leatherman Toronto 2016 Jeremy Feist (left), Toronto Puppy 2016 “Pup Benny” (center), and International Person of Leather 2016/Ms. Leather Toronto 2016 Shahrazad (right) courtesy of the Black Eagle Kennel Klub.

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This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Striker Singlet!

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Episode 215 – Foot in Mouth, Please

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Today, at popular request, we talk about feet! Despite Sparky’s personal aversion, we brought on a veritable foot fetish expert, author James T. Medak, to talk to us about all things feet. This is also perhaps our most pun-filled episode to date!

Show Notes

  • In the News
  • Podophilia – Foot Worship!
    • Our guest was suggested by fan of the show, TiedFeetGuy.
    • Introverts and folks from repressive environments tend to more often into feet
    • Foot sucking and service can be an intense power play and show of total submission
    • Tickle torture is a common way tops can enjoy feet paired with bondage
    • Foot fetishism can be an obsession, a primal lust and need for worship. Foot pigs will pay for used smelly socks for example.
    • Foot fucking and foot jobs can be an intense sensation for both
    • It’s hard to introduce your foot fetish to a potential partner. Many get very self conscious about the social stigma.

About Our Guest

James T. Medak is the author of five best-selling erotic tomes, including Getting Off on the Wrong Foot, How to be a Foot Pig, and an anthology called The Best Foot Forward. When not working on his sixth novel, he maintains a popular Tumblr and continues to get into all sorts of kinky things with his boyfriend. He lives in Chicago.

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This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Triple Stripe Rubber Sox:

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Episode 214 – Cock Holster

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In the age of Trump, it’s a great time to re-examine the idea of political correctness in the scope of all the crazy news lately.

 Show Notes

  • What Now? Stephen Colbert, long time champion of gay rights, is raked over the coals for a crude joke. Is “PC culture” starting to chase its own tail? Also: Conservatives erupt in faux outrage over gay rights to try to weaken their progressive opponent. Here’s Colbert’s joke in context. #notfirecolbert
  • In the News
    • According to a “study,” just thinking about sex makes you want to have it more! Amazing!
    • Man will serve at least 30 years in prison after beating to death a man who responded to an online ad for sex.
    • What leads people to kink? Are we born with our twisted desires? Thought for the nerds: Are kinksters a Protected Class under the Civil Rights Act of 1964? Lets check back in 10 years.
    • Dolphins have kinky sex. And scientists are paid to watch. Hawt!
    • The drunker a straight guy is, the more likely he’ll find a guy hot.

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Ungagged Episode 21 – You Wanna Be A Star, Don’cha?

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Have you ever thought of doing porn, or what it might be like? We share some of our limited experiences and much more we have learned from friends and others in the community around us to help you if you have considered acting in or producing porn.

Show Notes

  • In the News
  • So, you want to be a porn star?
    • What is porn?
    • Creating porn is work and not always fun
    • Mikey had a little experience with filming for kink.com
    • Consider the kind of porn that would be the best fit for you personally, don’t do it just for fame.
    • Be ready to promote your own stuff if you want it to be noticed.
    • Care about the quality
    • Research the software you’ll need for editing
    • What will be your porn identity? Amateur vs. Professional?

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This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Wolf Collar.

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Episode 205 – Totally Masc 4 Masc, Bro

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We are talking with our friend Debit (first debuted on the show in Episode 51 – Covering Recovery and has been back many more times) about masculinity and identity issues within the kink world.

Show Notes

  • Douche Pickle of the Week: Women Trump Supporters Close Their Accounts At Nordstrom For Dumping Ivanka
  • Sparky is now on the path to join the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence
    • DFT and Debit share their journeys as Sisters themselves
    • There is growing acceptance of fem, drag, and trans people in the leather community
  • The group discusses masculinity and those that broadcast that they are only looking for “masc”
  • Publicly declaring who you aren’t “into” is negative energy that stigmatizes people
  • Sparky played with a whiny lispy fem-bot, and he used to be called Chanté
  • Cologne is not a good idea if you don’t know your partner likes it
  • We respect all gender-identities and misgendered colloquialisms are not the same as disrespecting trans men and women
  • DFT wants to do a gender mind fuck scene
  • The sisters are becoming more interwoven in the kink community since they share missions and members

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Ungagged Episode 20 – Double Male-Bag

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Now that we’ve hit 20 episodes of the Ungagged podcast, its time for another dip into the mailbag (last time was Episode 10!). Before we do that, we run down some very important stories of the day.

Show Notes

  • In the News
    • Fascist Furries find themselves unwelcome in polite fur-ciety.
    • Every woman needs a healing crystal dildo by Chakrubs for the ultimate in luxury stone age masturbation.
    • Finally, the world’s prayers have been answered. We’ll now all have the same set of unintelligible toilet iconography to try to understand while sitting on the shitter.
    • Dude, bro! Come check out my SCUBA bong! What could go wrong?
  • Listener Letters
    • A listener from the wilds of Western Washington thanks us for helping them feel more a part of the community even in relative isolation
    • Next, we answer some questions about J-Lube recipes. Add Methylcellulose for a thicker viscosity. Use salt for easier cleanup. Check out Drew’s recipe of Lion Cream Lube for more.
    • A listener in a dark place asks for advice with a newly polyamorous relationship that has not turned out as they hoped.
    • Frederik, a.k.a. ToyTorture, writes us about some further information about E-stim safety.
    • PiercedLeather asks the pups about how to achieve sub headspace.
    • A UPah pup writes us to share his connection with the show
    • The pups give advice to a listener with a really tight hole that needs some stretching help.
    • A listener loves the affirmation of knowing their not alone in their perversions, we love them too!

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This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Frisky Rubber Pup Hood.

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Episode 203 – Harshing My Buzz

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Sex, drugs, and beating balls. On this episode we have a discussion with Ungagged hosts Drew and Mikey about drugs, sex and kink. We go down a list of the most popular drugs and talk about our experiences of each. Some of them are awesome and totally safe to use in a controlled situation, others you had best steer clear!

Show Notes

  • Introducing Now What? our new recurring segment for the show. We decided in this new political era to take proactive action to protect our rights.
  • Sparky runs down a list of Senators to target, support, and watch to get ready for the next midterm election in 2018.
  • Our topic is drug use in kink play and sex. We are exploring this topic to be open beyond the stigma and share our own experiences from the past.
  • Pot has so many code words! As it is legalized, it is becoming a lot more common as a part of sex the way that alcohol has been. “I have introduced plenty of people to pot for the first time!” “Tell me more about it, Bill Cosby?”
  • Heroin or opium has strong effects and is very addictive. It’s dangerous to use in risky sexual situations and the effects are so strong that we would never suggest or consider it for sexual play (or for any other use).
  • “I love me some cocaine, if there was some cocaine here right now I would snort it!” We take a trip back to the 80’s and talk about why coke isn’t terrible in general. However it’s not completely compatible with sex or kink play for everyone. It can kill your boner.
  • Methamphetamine have similar effects to cocaine, but much more addictive. It can have devastating effects with long-term use. We don’t recommend trying it and won’t play with others using it.
  • Party drugs like MDMA and Ecstasy makes everything in the world feel sexy, except maybe sex itself. Some say it makes for the best sex they ever had. There’s an alphabet soup of different cocktails and combos of drugs that some think have the best feeling, but generally you’ll have to pay for the pleasure on the other end. “She took her shirt off… and I remember playing with her boobs and having the best time!” 
  • K. This special drug was developed to knock out horses. You can fall into a K hole and just be happy existing. It probably will make you boring, which isn’t very sexy. Similar drugs are PCP and Salvia. They get you disoriented and you will make bad choices.
  • Hallucinogens make every boring situation seem exciting thanks to the phantom dicks popping out of every surface. Some really love sex with them, although it’s not compatible with most kink play. “That can be the worst 20 minutes of your life trying to eat a bag of mushrooms.” 
  • Know your environment and don’t over-do it. Do your research and talk to a friend. Keep this number and call for help if it is not an emergency: U.S. Poison Control Hotline 1-800-222-1222. Visit Drugslab on YouTube to see some scientifically presented visuals of the effects of different drugs.

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This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Bluetooth Remote Control Butt Plug.

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Episode 202 – Pop Goes the Kinkster

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A few months ago the local news weekly, The Stranger, sent a reporter over to our show to do a story about us and other kinky online educational resources from the Seattle area, and thus was the first time we met Matt. He is a sweet guy that did a great write up about our show, so we have invited him back to have a talk with us about how kink culture and pop culture sometimes interact (as sometimes doesn’t). Always fun to hear from matt!

Show Notes

  • A listener letter asking about bar etiquette. The guys talk about extending yourself to others at the bar…verbally that is! More information about bar etiquette can be found in a past episode of the pup’s podcast – Ungagged 4: The Devil is in the Details.
  • Our guest Matt Baume talks about his relationship to the kink community as a journalist who is an advocate of kink from outside the kink community.
  • How does kink and pop culture link up? We talk about different examples in gaming (Ironbull), in movies (Secretary), and in music (Madonna…duh!)

About Our Guest

Matt Baume makes his third visit to the NoSafeWord podcast! Matt is a Seattle-based writer, storyteller, and video maker whose work focuses on LGBT issues, nerds, and anything that is strange and wonderful.

Matt hosts the podcast The Sewers of Paris, where gay men share stories about the entertainment that changed their lives. He is the author of the book Defining Marriage and hosts a podcast of the same name where he and his partner joke and chat about queer issues.

He is currently working on a project called Playing With Pride, featuring personal stories about what happens when queer culture and game culture collide. You can get in touch @mattbaume on Twitter, and check out his YouTube channel for weekly videos about LGBT issues.

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This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Champion Singlet

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Ungagged Episode 19 – A Different Kind of Sparky

About This Episode

We’re talking this week about electro play! We’re also shaking off the dust of the holidays and catching up on the news.

  • Catching up in the new year
  • What’s in the news:
  • We talk all about electro play in depth!
    • Methods of electro play
    • There are a number of different systems out there available and we discuss a few
    • Dangers and pitfalls to avoid
    • Gel and other accessories
    • Help for beginners
    • Know electricity basics!
    • Electro is individualistic – it takes time to get the right stim for each person, so do it much more than once
    • 3-2-1…Contact! Connectivity is extremely important
    • Send us your comments and letters!

 

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What Does NoSafeWord Mean?

To welcome all of our new readers and listeners, I wanted to repost this post from December of 2011 by Sparky explaining the meaning of the name NoSafeWord to this blog and podcast:

First, it is a play on words, meaning that there is no subject that I think should be off the table for the discussion of kink and play. We need to talk about this stuff, get it in the open and explore. It is how we all get better and grow.

Second, and probably more importantly, I have found setting up safe words to be unnecessary when the scene is done right. When I sub I want a top that knows what they are doing so well, and can listen to my reactions in order to push me to the edge without going over, that the use of a safe word is unnecessary. When I top I want a boy to turn themselves over to me and understand that I am not going to take them where they can’t go, and to level complete trust onto me.

Does this mean I never use safe words? No, I have and will again. Does it mean that I will only play with boys who won’t have a safe word backup? No, I do and will again.

But as I grow in my kink the need for the safe word as a tool for ensuring safety and control within a scene becomes less and less necessary for both parties, and when I play with someone more and more, having less of a need for a safe word between us because we know each other so well become erotic in itself.

That is what I am striving for. And will always strive to get better at.

For further background about the development of NoSafeWord listen to the first episode of the podcast – Starting It All or check out the crew that puts this all together.

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Sparky

Sparky started in kink about 10 years, with his first passion being rubber and puppy play. He started off learning at the end of Stompie’s leash, the founder of PupZone.com, and his partner Squirm, the founder of Rubberzone.com. Sparky later became the collared pup of Oniell67, who taught him a great deal about rubber and neoprene at the start of his journey into kink.

Shortly after moving back to Seattle nearly seven years ago, Sparky met his partner in all things, Damien. From the beginning our goal was to build a leather family in the mold on the Daddies that have become prominent mentors in their lives, Daddy Chuck and Daddy Chris. As Sparky has embraced his own Daddy side, he has welcomed in his leather brother Daddy Tony and his puppy Mikey. And in the last year become blessed with his own boy, Boy Trav.

There have been so many influences and guides in the journey Sparky has taken in the last few years, both near friends as well as those in the extended network of kinksters all across the world. He is looking forward to bringing their voices to this podcast, extending to all the newbies out there the benefit of collected wisdom gathered in this kinky world!

 

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