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Episode 249 – Is That Wrong?

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The guys take on a variety of topics.

 Show Notes

  • What Now?
    • Roseanne is back it seems. Daddy Tony has some interesting other things he would rather watch.
  • In the News
  • Let’s Open Our Telegram Messages
    • A very hot topic in our forum discussed puppies who happen to be female.
      • The discussion in Telegram could have been more civil, so avoid name-calling there, please.
      • While the pup community is overwhelmingly male, it does not mean puppies cannot be female. We are *all* free to be who we want to be.
      • It does create the issue of those puppies who would prefer to mosh with their own sex. There should be spaces at public mosh events where opposite-sex moshing is designated to happen.
      • Personal preferences are nothing to apologize about, and a cis-male pup having a private party can invite only male-identified pups.
      • At a public mosh in a public space, sex is normally not allowed, so anyone of any cis-gender should be able to attend, while attendees there have the right to choose who they get on the mat with.
      • Still, obnoxious and loud behavior is disruptive, no matter what gender it comes from.

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Episode 247 – Gender Schmender

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Today’s very special guest is Sister PussyWillow and she will discuss transgender and how they interact with the different kink communities.

 Show Notes

  • Our Guest Today – Sister PussyWillow
    • Transgender and the general kink community. Sister will give us some insight.
    • Pronouns. Always important.
    • With our guest, all three of us are Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, so they all talk about gender and being a Sister.
    • Talking of BDSM and Trans, what can the “typical” leather guy do to make Trans people more welcome?
    • The immortal line between a personal preference and being phobic of a community.
      • Where does it lie between a gay cisgendered male who is not attracted to female genitalia, and a trans man who has female genitalia?
      • Must a gay cisgendered male accept every invitation to sex with a trans man out of fear of being called transphobic?
      • Are personal preferences allowed?
    • Let’s go: RuPaul and the banning of trans women from RuPaul’s Drag Race (which Ru ended up rescinding the ban and apologizes.)
      • Will Ru recover from this, or is this time a step too far?
      • If things do go negative, does Ru still need to suffer a full shunning, or maybe just less attention?
      • What about drag and its general prohibition to cisgendered females (while trans men doing female drag does not seem to be a problem?)
    • The unfortunately-common question to trans males who do female drag: Why did you transition to male if you like to wear dresses?

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Episode 245 -Swinging Dead Squirrels

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Daddy Tony is back and we take this time to read a listener’s letter.

 Show Notes

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Episode 244 – DFT Down

Today we have a special episode to give an update on where Daddy Tony is at right now. He has been dealing with some health issues and we were not able to record on our normal schedule while he recovers. Send all the best possible love and energy his way.

 

 

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Episode 243 – News and jizz

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Today’s show opens up to our listeners and the messages they have sent us.

 Show Notes

  • What Now?
    • Blech. *sigh*
  • In the News
  • Listener Letters
    • One of our listeners asks if it is acceptable to the kink community to have experience being a sub to be a Sir?
      • It is “acceptable” as anything involving consenting adults is “acceptable.”
      • Not everyone may be accepting of you personally, of course.
      • Still, you can do your research online if experience hasn’t taught you. You won’t be perfect of course.
      • Being a Dom requires responsibility…or at least being a good Dom does.
      • Still, a newbie Dom should still go to kink events out-of-town and seek out advice from other Doms with more experience.
    • Another listener questions the worthiness of health care providing anti-viral medication who are bug chasers.
      • We are all worthy, even if some of us have faults.
      • Should smoking, overeating, and other factors also make us “unworthy” of health care?
      • Anti-viral medications are expensive…up to $4,000/month. Still, at least in the US, the drug manufacturer provides financial assistance for most who cannot afford it, both directly from them and through state-level programs that the manufacturer donates to.
      • We in the gay community already experience marginalization. We need to try very hard not to marginalize others, especially aimed at our own community.

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Ungagged Episode 29 – The Doghouse

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After game time with Sparky and Daddy Tony, the puppers talk about building your own playspace.

Show Notes

  • Game Time with Sparky and Daddy Tony
    • A game of “define the phobia.” Given a phobia term, describe what it means.
  • Building out your space
    • Dual-use spaces
      • Playroom and (any other room)
      • Lots of spaces like an office, living room, etc. could be a playroom
    • A playspace also is about what is seen before you get to the playspace…so look at your place as a whole.
    • A playspace can look like anything. There are no rules…make it look like what makes you most comfortable and not anyone else.
    • Music is also very important during a scene in a playroom
      • Music gets you away from reality
      • Put on what you want!
    • Furniture for everyday use can also be dual-purpose
      • Look for solidly-built furniture. IKEA will not work and is way too cheaply-built.
      • Hide places that can be used as anchor points
    • The sense of smell – how does your room smell?
      • Find a type of incense or a spray deodorizer that you love, and ONLY use it in that room.
      • Your playroom will smell like your playroom and get you in the mood just by the smell of your playroom.
    • Lighting your playspace
      • LED light strips. You don’t have to get the Philips Hue brand. There are other choices that even are compatible with Hue.
      • Check out Amazon. They have many choices of course.

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Episode 242 – Chasing Bugs Part 2

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On today’s show the guys continue their discussion on bug chasers.

 Show Notes

  • What Now?
    • The shutdown. It’s 2018. Take action – get informed, get registered, and VOTE.
  • In the News
  • More About Bug Chasing
    • As with the last episode, refer again to this article.
    • Whenever a kink risks the health of the individual, then we do have to think about their mental health.
    • Getting to that person’s motivation for participating in self-destructive behavior is very important. Is this kink helping them or hurting them (permanently?)
    • Bug chasing is not a kink, to the extent that it is not recognized by other people into kink.
    • The guys do think we should tread carefully about shutting down communication with someone into bug chasing. We should be non-judgmental and open to sharing information with them.
    • It is hard to be completely non-judgmental. Maybe it is better to say to them that you do not have a full understanding of their kink but are willing to listen to them.

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Episode 241 – Chasing Bugs

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Today’s show discusses the kink of bug chasing. Is it the taboo of taboo sex?

 Show Notes

  • What Now?
    • Trump, racism, Mike Pence’s preferences, etc.
  • In the News
  • Bug Chasing
    • This article introduces bug chasing, or the kink of an HIV-negative person who desires to acquire HIV. Do HIV exposure laws add to the kink?
    • HIV exposure laws, many of them passed over 30 years ago, need reform. California has recently lowered this crime from a felony to a misdemeanor.
    • How would a bug chaser’s kink change after they become HIV-positive?
    • Does this fetishization of HIV-positive people come from a place of stigmatizing HIV-positive people?
    • Some bug chasers talk about their fetish being about risky, taboo sex that is no different than other sorts of taboo sex.
    • Some others view bug chasing is a form of mental illness or a fetish that should never be encouraged.
    • The guys don’t necessary view it in either extreme. It is more of struggle for them to understand the kink.
    • Definitely there is much more to talk about, and the guys may address it again in a future show.

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Episode 238 – Whatever, Mistress!

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Today’s show features Portland’s very own Ginger Vixen Mistress Pixie Fyre (on previously in Episode 200 We are 200Episode 165 Mistress Fyre and Episode 190 Cum Unity).

 Show Notes

  • What Now?
  • In the News
  • Our Guest Today – Mistress Pixie Fyre
    • Mistress Pixie talks about the role of protocol in her personal life, both sexual and non-sexual.
    • The best kind of service between a Dom and the sub is a two-way street
      • For example, the Dom can show a special kind of acknowledgement to a sub’s service as part of the protocol.
    • How is protocol established and effectively remembered?
      • Communication
      • Writing down those protocols agreed upon
      • Do it every time, every day
      • Checking back in with each other if a protocol is still beneficial to both parties
    • Protocol can occasionally lapse.
      • Understanding toward the other person is so important
      • If their life is super-busy or stressful, talk to them about it
      • Putting aside some protocols as a break may be necessary
    • The link between the Dom and the sub through protocol can be a great comfort in times of crisis. Mistress Pixie relates her battle with cancer this year and talks about how meaningful that is in times of crisis.
    • Service is not always fun for both sides of the power equation. Mistress Pixie talks about those kind of services, but an emphasis should be placed on services that are beneficial to the household or to the sub themselves.
    • Hey subs, you can give suggestions to your Dom (politely requested of course!) Offer your ideas to Them on ways to serve that will be fun for both of you.

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Episode 237 – Puppers On Poppers

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This week we discuss what’s in the news and answer a couple letters from our listeners. In the spirit of #MeToo, we condemn the assholes the assault others for their own pleasure and power.

 Show Notes

  • In the News
  • Our guest today is Sparky’s pup, That Drew Lion, a.k.a. Brutus, the co-host of Ungagged.
  • The main topic: Poppers and Max Impact
    • Poppers:
      • Poppers is really videotape player head cleaner.
      • The most common chemical considered poppers is isobutyl nitrate, but there are many other chemicals in the nitrates that are also called poppers. Amyl nitrate is banned in the US.
      • Why do people do poppers?
        • It is inhaled
        • Euphoric, horny feeling
        • It relaxes the muscles very effectively and quickly, promoting a head rush
      • Also relaxes muscles involved in sex, including the rectum, vagina, throat, and even the urethra.
      •  The bad side to poppers
        • Headaches
        • Out of control feeling
      • Because of the different chemical makeup, the brands of poppers effects vary.
      • Those with respiratory problems should use caution since it causes respiratory irritation.
      • Not many states ban poppers completely. The sale of poppers is banned in Canada.
  • Max Impact
    • It is a product that is not considered poppers, and it has a much stronger effect.
    • It is the chemical ethyl chloride.
    • Usually in a spray bottle
    • It is much more in the realm of anesthesia.
    • There have been many deaths caused by Max Impact
    • Those new to poppers should stay away.
  • Either product can be addictive, and those who are addicted to it are not very fun in bed.
  • Your erection could also be difficult to get or maintain without poppers.
  • Poppers also should never be used while on Viagra, since both lower blood pressure and could lead to dizziness, fainting, and even death.
  • Overall, like any drug, use with caution. As Brutus said, poppers should only be used to accent a scene, but if it becomes a center of the scene, then it could be problematic.

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Episode 236 – Oh Cum All You Kinky

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This week, the guys delve into the holidays and the unique issues that kinky people can have with them.

 Show Notes

  • What Now?
  • In the News
  • The Holidays
    • The guys talk about how they spend their holidays: both past and present
    • Can the holidays be more than going through the motions?
    • Kinky people can definitely feel more of a divide between themselves and non-kinky family members during the holidays
    • Sparky decided one Thanksgiving to “spice up” his holiday… unbeknownst to his biological family.

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Episode 234 – Match Game Again

It is that time of year again. In celebration of DFT’s birthday we have a party in the studio with a bunch of friends and play Match Game. This year we had a bit of a theme! Sisters!

First, our special guest contestant was my own real life Sister, Beth! She was up for a visit and got to experience a house full of friends and frolic! Well, not so much frolic, because that would be weird. She was one of the contestants for the game, squaring off with my best friend from college, Antonio! At one time he was kind of like a sister to me too, but that is for another time

And our panel this year was Sisters as well. Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence. the Abbey of St Joan. We put together a panel, including DFT aka Gladys Pantzaroff, plus five more sisters.

Not a lot to this episode other than some good clean fun!

*Warning* controlling levels during a party is difficult, especially when some people where loud near the mics. We recommend that you listen with someone other than earbuds.

 

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Ungagged Episode 27 – That Sweet OC

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This episode talks about how to create original online content.

Show Notes

  • In the News – Craigslist Missed Connections!
    • You only need to grab a hammer to be Thor
    • Seven foot tall unicorn really misses his honey in the black tutu
    • A skinny skeleton gets some smooth talk
    • Aquaman resists his new-look image
    • Straight male shows off for Chun Li
    • He had him at “no homo”
    • Mimes go all altruistic
    • A moment of love shared over pink thongs
    • Lets go back to the barn
  • How to Produce Online Content
    • What is your motivation for making content?
      • Just wanting to share your experiences?
      • Want to have fans?
      • Make money?
    • Just be advised that it is a lot of work to make good original content.
    • Different types of content to be made: review sites, educational sites, porn, advice on kink.
    • How will you deliver your content? Written content, podcast, or video can be delivered in many different ways. Make your own website with a hosting company or using services like YouTube?
    • Be careful with different services that you are not violating their terms of service, especially with adult content.
    • Your content will always benefit from being tastefully presented, so get advice on website design and even have an overall branding approach professionally done.
    • Sometimes you can team-up with others in presenting original content. If you have website creation abilities, you can always partner with others who is good at creating content or have the means to create content.
    • Making high-quality content does require high-quality equipment.
    • Good content creation also requires one to be able to do many things well…all at once.
    • Prepare yourself for the haters: You will get lots of criticism, some good, and a lot delivered in the rudest way possible.
    • Think also about legal issues. How will you organize yourself as a company? Will your content open you to legal issues…like adult content? Talk to a lawyer to get the best advice.
    • Be organized. Lots of things will be going on, and being organized is key, especially when you need to deliver content on a regular basis.
    • Look into content delivery platforms like WordPress and its seemingly infinite number of plugins that will let you add features to your website…like an online store.
    • Since you will now be using a megaphone, be aware that you can create unintended drama.

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Episode 233 – Yum my Yuk

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Today on the podcast…yums…and yuks…and the men who love them.

 Show Notes

  • What Now? 
  • In the News
  • Don’t Yuk My Yum – Kink shaming
    • Is there ever a time that it is okay to shame someone’s kink?
      • Anything involving non-consensual acts or involving those who cannot consent.
      • Anything causing permanent physical disability.
    • So is there a way to politely or altruistically yuk someone’s yum?
    • There are borderline cases where every individual has the right to make up their own mind about it. Examples being “playing Nazi” or racial play.
    • Still, a yuk definitely can become a yum – since a yuk really has more to it than you think.

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