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Audience Responses to Episode 41 Questions

Like we did for Episode 40, for this show we put out some questions to our audience, both via twitter and the crew watching in the studio, some questions about kink in general. We read some of the answers on the air, but we had a few more that we wanted to make sure got shared here. So here we go!

 

What does the word “kink” mean to you?

  • It’s a word to explain an affinity for an object or action
  • Something unusual or not generally mainstream
  • Would a ↑ in popularity of BDSM following books like 50SoG mean its no longer kink
  • A deviation from the conventional; standing out from the norm with pride
  • An unexpected twist, going in a different direction (like with a hose). I just made that up, but it makes sense to me
  • Outside the realm of vanilla sex
  • That which I do not discuss with my mother
  • Use of a fetish to achieve sexual or personal happiness
  • “Alternative” – Not mainstream but still part of a community
  • Of or related to alternative sexual tendencies and practices
  • A way to express yourself
  • A sexual preference or particular interest that is not a social norm or “vanilla” practice and can be characterized accordingly
  • Proud to live outside the norm
  • It means any kind of sex outside normalcy or involving objects or clothing
  • Things that are enjoyable and not common in mainstream society
  • Knowing what gets you off, not being ashamed to go out and get it, making no apologies along the way
  • Having an interest in a more sexual manner
  • Sex against the grain

 

What was it that you found to be kinky at one time that has become less so as you have developed into kink?

  • Butt sex
  • Simple rope bondage
  • Handcuffs – Now are not but a placeholder
  • Everything is more familiar and little remains taboo
  • Pup play. Dan/son. Master/slave.
  • Nothing
  • Furry
  • Rough sex, I guess
  • Speaking for myself, 99.9% of what I do is ‘kinky’ – but I have stopped thinking of it like that – now it’s just Tuesday
  • Biting. I used to thing that it was so hot and kinky when I was younger, but now it is just expected with play partners
  • Rimming or fursuit sex… Both seem pretty tame now in retrospect compared to some other things I’ve done
  • Is vore even considered kinky despite the sheer impossibility?
  • Spanking/light hitting. Seems to be part and parcel now
  • If “kinky” = “out of the ordinary/weird”, then umm…lots? shower WS, spit, spanking, pinning/wrestling…
  • Spanking
  • Satin soccer shorts
  • In order of discovery: Domination/submission, watersports, chastity, CBT, pup play, bondage
  • Hooded and Bound outdoors At night Alone
  • Piss! By far
  • Chasity and ice cold showers

 

Is there a kink that you have that would be very embarrassing if you ‘vanilla’ friends were to find out?

  • “a” kink??? Dang… I got way more than one!
  • Not at all. It’s part of my identity. It’s an all or nothing acceptance with me.
  • This under the assumption I have vanilla friends? lol
  • well, according to the scale I’m a “opportunistic necrophiliac”. I’d just kill my friends if they found out tho :3 *huuugs*
  • Um… pretty much all of them? I’m guessing my flagging yellow would top the list though
  • Yes. ‘Nuff said.
  • Not really as I don’t recall having any vanilla friends left, they’re all kinksters or furries
  • Not really, they might freak out yes, but that just encourages me to go into graphic detail on the matter
  • No, but a neighbor in town revealed he is an AB daddy and now gets teased for it mercilessly
  • yup! Deep down, but I never do would be Sissy play because it’s the only thing to “truly” get me into a humiliation scene
  • My love for being padded would totally confuse my vanilla friends
  • They barely blink an eye at the flogging, but the w/s would probably raise eyebrows. (^_^)
  • Hmm… all of them? Would depend on the ‘vanilla’ level of that friend :)
  • Diaper lover, Furry
  • Yes, ABDL play
  • Pup play
  • No, I’ve lost my shame- gene somewhere!
  • Water sports
  • Nope, if they find out, I’ll just tell them more about it!
  • Yes. ABDL

 

As kinksters we know that our kinks enrich our lives. What kink do you think your vanilla friends should pick up to make their lives better?

  • BDSM!
  • Bondage with a side of D/s
  • M/s or at least bondage……lots of trust gets built up in good scenes involving these
  • Learn to embrace (and riff on) the D/s dynamic. How to relinquish control, and how to wield control properly
  • puppy play!
  • kink helped me gain self-confidence
  • Negotiation. Informed consent
  • Exercise
  • Specifically, I would say rubber, bondage, open relationships. More generally speaking, my vanilla friends should always expand beyond the plain/vanilla and try something they aren’t familiar with
  • Bondage – as a way to encourage folks to communicate with each other more and to be more honest with themselves and each other
  • Kinksters talk about sex, what they want and do not want. Vanilla folk could use that
  • Dominance and submission… they are natural instincts
  • Dom/sub play. As play, it’s consensual, you can change roles, and (generally) no one gets hurt
  • BDSM, fuzzy handcuffs
  • Bondage and S&M
  • Jesus!
  • Anything with a close knit community. It’s a sense of belonging with your dirtiest secret in common and out in the open

 

 

 

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Audience Responses to Episode 40 Questions

During Episode 40 with Neil we put out some questions to our listeners, both via our twitter feed and to the group of guys we had over for the show’s recording. There were a lot of interesting answers to the questions, and since we were not able to get to them all we thought we would share them here with you!

 

Do you have a fantasy involving hypno? Tell us what it is!

  • Yes to be completely turned into a submissive puppy !
  • The text book one. Going to a hypno session with a hot guy and ‘waking up’ all tied up and playing bondage games
  • To be more comfortable while in bondage
  • Forcibly hypnotized to follow directions and act like a mindless puppy
  • I have a fantasy about being hypnotized, abducted and taken to a place where I m used to feed a tribe of men who worship me for my cock
  • Making a guy (or me) really horny (or helping enhance the libido) – off the charts horny – then making it difficult or impossible to achieve orgasm
  • Yes to be hypnotized into believing I’m being sung to by Uncle Jesse era John Stamos. He is singing “Do You Think I’m Sexy)

If you had the ability to effectively hypnotize someone else, what would you be excited to hypno them to do?

  • massaging my feet
  • I’d make everyone into puppies!!!!! :D
  • Can I hypnotize them to hypnotize me? *blinks* :P
  • I can and have to a couple people in college. I’m really not comfortable with that level of control over others though
  • hmm. I’d be evil and give them an involuntary reaction like having to lick boots when they see them
  • have them listen to your show! ;) and maybe some other things too. -wags-
  • I would be excited to hypno them into their ideal fantasy
  • I would have them recognize me as Master, I guess. Never really thought about it. P.S., I’d make DFT dance like a monkey! :)
  • Laugh at inappropriate moments
  • Control sex drive by making him horny, or not, regardless of what he wants. Control in this way is very hot
  • I would want them obsessed with my DNA. Wanting to stalk me at the gym, flirt with me at bars, and happy to lick up anything I leave on the floor, because it is my essence
  • Humiliate them, have them pleasure themselves and make them feel like they’re getting fucked
  • Lay there while I fuck myself on them, and/or  clean my house naked
  • Bondage without ropes

If you could ask anything you have wanted to know about hypno, what would it be?

  • How do I know you won’t hypno me into getting naked every time someone says dog! (Or insert other crazy thing here)
  • How do you know what files work and what are safe or how to find safe people interested in it.
  • I asked @Erotic_Hypno a long winded question last week but I’d ask “Could you make time for me this weekend?” were I around
  • How about more case studies (good and bad). What were the big successes & worst oopses? Respecting privacy of course.
  • Well what mindset should a sub be in to try hypno and what can they do to allow themselves to go under more easily?
  • I guess how effective are verbal triggers? Looking to implant one in me to turn into an obedient pup.
  • Can you fly to pupstriker and do dirty hypno-ish things to him…..*evil Wags*
  • Is it brain washing? How far can it make someone go?
  • I’ve often heard hypnotists tell people they will wake up very rested the next morning. Why does this happen? And is that always the case?
  • Does it work on everyone?
  • Are some more susceptible than others?
  • Can anyone do it? Both as a hypnotist and a subject? Can it control physical aspects of the body?
  • What is the best possible outcome to a first session?
  • What are the different ways to put someone under?
  • Whats the most common form of hypnosis you are asked to perform?
  • How long can you be under?
  • Can it work on someone who doesn’t necessarily believe it will work?
  • Why does it work on some people and not on others?

 

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Episode 41 – One in the Kink, Two in the Stink

After we recorded our last episode with Neil (See Episodes 6 and 13 and 40) we had decided to do a show where we talk just about kink in general. We talk all the time about kink but we never really have defined it before now.

Before the show we asked both our in-studio audience and our listeners via twitter the following four questions:

  1. What does the word “Kink” mean to you?
  2. What was it that you found to be kinky at one time that has become less so as you have developed into kink?
  3. Is there a kink that you have that would be very embarrassing for you in your ‘vanilla’ friends were to find out?
  4. As kinksters we know that our kinks enrich our lives. What kink do you think your vanilla friends should pick up to make their lives better?

We spend a lot of time talking about this and many other things as well, we hope you enjoy!

 

Show Notes

 In the News

About Our Guest

Neil has been doing hypnosis since 2001, at first as a hobby (and tool of sexual exploration) and since 2009, as a full-time job. Practicing hypnosis lead him to discover his dominant side and explore the BDSM world. Neil lives in New York City. Find him on TwitterRecon, and his blog The Erotic Hypnotist.

 

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Episode 40 – You Are Feeling Very Kinky

Neil came to Seattle for a visit, so this was the perfect time to have him on the mic for a show and a follow-up. We posted up a lot of questions to our audience via our twitter account, asking such questions as:

If you could ask anything you have wanted to know about hypno, what would it be?

Do you have a fantasy involving hypno? Tell us about it!

If you had the ability to effectively hypnotize someone else, what would you be excited to hypno them to do?

We spend the episode reading and responding to our listeners answers to these questions, creating some fascinating discussion along the way! Hope you very much enjoy this episode!

 

Show Notes

 In the News

About Our Guest

Neil has been doing hypnosis since 2001, at first as a hobby (and tool of sexual exploration) and since 2009, as a full-time job. Practicing hypnosis lead him to discover his dominant side and explore the BDSM world. Neil lives in New York City. Find him on TwitterRecon, and his blog The Erotic Hypnotist.

 

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Episode 39 – Up Your Folsom!

Nearly every kinkster out there has heard of the big street fair in San Francisco in their days. While I (Sparky) have never been able to go, both Daddy Tony and Mikey have been a part of the events, given they are from SF. Folsom Street Fair and Up Your Alley are events that get universal praise for a great time from all the kinksters I know that have been.

“You’ve got to go this year!”

Every year I hear it, but I never had the chance to go because I have always been out of town for work. So it was really exciting to get first hand knowledge about the events directly from the executive director of the organization that puts the event on!

Demitri was very helpful in providing a lot of great info and stories about the event. Even if you have been there before you are going to learn something new! Got to check this show out!

 

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

  • What are the events?
  • The history of Folsom Street Events
  • What don’t people know? What are the events not?
  • More about the upcoming Folsom Street Fair

About Our Guest

Demitri is the Executive Director of Folsom Street Events, best known for putting on the Folsom Street Fair and Up Your Alley kink events in San Francisco.

 

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Episode 38 – Slavepup Axel

This pup was in town for the Northwest Puppy Contest recently, where Daddy Tony got a chance to meet him. It seemed like a natural fit to talk with him about his experience as the current International Puppy title holder.  Slavepup Axel is a bouncy pup with a lot of energy, and he is more than happy with focusing that energy on representing the pup community.

We talk about all sorts of puppy related issues and what it is like being a title holder puppy!

 

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

  • Who is Slavepup Axel?
  • How he got the international title
  • What is it like being a judge at the Northwest Puppy Contest?
  • Organizing, community, and fundraising for kink groups
  • Talk to the puppy just getting started

About Our Guest

Slavepup Axel is International Puppy 2013, the first pup to win the title since the organization was created in 2011. He identifies as part tolling retriever, part submissive, and part butthead-mutt. This year, he has appeared in 13 states and 2 provinces, performing demonstrations, fundraising for pup groups and charities, representing International Puppy, and advocating for pups in the leather and kink communities. S.P. Axel is handled, trained, humiliated, abused, and loved by Master Kevin Chaulk of Vancouver and Sir Kevin Mischka of Washington, D.C. He lives with his husband of 15 years in Richmond, Virginia. Find him on Facebook and his blog.

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Episode 37 – Daddy Fucking Giggles

Only because it is legal in Washington, Daddy Tony and Sparky decided to imbibe a certain cookie at the beginning of the show to see if we could make it through. We did… sorta. Barely.

If you want to understand the name of the show, listen to the end through the credits. A little extra for ya all.

We had a lot to cover as you can see from the show notes, and we had a great time doing it. Can’t wait for the next one!

 

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

  • Wacky tobacky cookies
  • While we were away, On the road for work
  • Sergio
  • Working late at night
  • Damien’s BBC
  • Northwest Puppy Contest
  • Atlanta Play Party
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Episode 36 – Nightcat

Ok, we are just going to have to start out by saying this was a little bit of a wild one for our shows. We were all over the place and covered a lot of stuff, and had a great time doing it! We talk with our friend Nightcat who was also featured on mic in Episode 16 about furries. There were so many truly funny moments in the show that I have been waiting to put this out there for a while, and now is the perfect time!

Show Notes

 Discussion Topics

  • The first talk of the Popper Incident referenced in the post Whoops… Was All I Heard
  • Talking about poppers in general
  • “Peach Flavored Pussy Powder” You are just going to have to hear it to believe it
  • “I like the color 2”
  • Daddies’ X-mas presents
  • Sparky had to be bleeped this time.
  • The soon-to-be-infamous Fart Story!

About Our Guest

Nightcat has been in the furry fandom and in BDSM for over 15 years now. He enjoys kink and everything to do with it. He has lived in Seattle for over a decade and loves his family of Furs and Kinksters! Find him on TwitterRecon, and Fetlife.

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Episode 35 – Listener Letter

In this episode, we had a lot going on! First and foremost, we talked about a letter that was sent in to the show from listener BearPaul. We had actually written about the letter back in a post on the blog, How to Get Over Fear, but on the show we talked about it in a bit more depth than on the blog.

Additionally:

  • This was Brett’s first show, but he was tied up and gagged! (Why did we stop doing that??)
  • We talked about self image, feeling safe and facing fears
  • And also, stories about our trip to the Mid-Atlantic Leather contest!

You’ve got to check out this show!

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Episode 34 – Year In Chastity

Back when Dreadfire was still our roommate, a few months ago, his boyfriend from Chicago came to visit. Smarmaduke, or Aaron, might be best known for his blog (archived here) where he to chronicled being in chastity for an entire year! And after all that, he still wanted more… if you are a big fan of chastity, this one is the one for you.

We had a great time learning about Aaron, where he came from and started in kink, including his very first scene involving fisting!  And his adventures with getting on planes now that he is all locked up.

Sit back and enjoy getting to know our friend Aaron!

 

Show Notes

Discussion Topics

  • Experiences blogging his chastity for 1 year
  • What was it like starting in kink so young?
  • Coming out story
  • What is your preferred chastity device?
  • How do you clean it and yourself?
  • What was the reward for 1 year of chastity?
  • Will you do it again?

About Our Guestsmarmaduke full

Aaron otherwise known as Smarmaduke grew up in the midwest and now calls Chicago his home. After a very wholesome upbringing and religiously-tinged schooling he jumped in ass first to the scene and has never gone back. He broke into some community renown for his year of blogging under chastity… 365 days in a device. He lives with his boyfriend Dreadfire in Chicago. Find him on Twitter, Recon, and his archived blog A Year Under Lock and Key.

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Pride Parade: Our Family

This post is part 4 of 4 in the series Seattle Pride Parade 2013.

 

One of the best parts of celebrating Pride was being there with the members of our close leather family as well as our extended kink family. We had a great time! We love to find a shady spot and send out a call to all our friends and family to join us. After the end of the parade, we always go for a group lunch before the drinking and partying begins. As you can see, we were all ready to have a blast!

 

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Pride Parade: Center for Sex Positive Culture

This post is part 3 of 4 in the series Seattle Pride Parade 2013.

 

 

 

These are some photos from the recent pride parade of the entry by the Center for Sex Positive Culture. Here you will see the director, Allena, as well as the host of Cock Circus (and the man Sparky calls Sir), Daniel, a.k.a. VisibleRestraint.

Check out the moment when Allena gets flashed by Daddy Tony, and then getting flashed back. Priceless!

Be sure to check out the podcast episode where we interview both Allena and Daniel:

NoSafeWord Podcast Episode 31 – Center for Sex Positive Culture

 

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Pride Parade: Hobbit and Tyesha

This post is part 2 of 4 in the series Seattle Pride Parade 2013.

At the beginning of the Leather Contingent of Pride we got a visit from the past guests of the show, Hobbit & Tyesha! And as you can see, they attacked Daddy Tony.

If you haven’t listened yet, you have to check out the fun episode we recorded with these two! They are as fun and wild as they look! ;)

NoSafeWord Podcast Episode 28 – Tyesha and Hobbit

NoSafeWord Podcast Episode 29 – Tyesha and Hobbit Part 2

 

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Episode 33 – Phil’s Flank Steak

For this episode, which was the second one we ever recorded, we had on our friend Phil from Philadelphia, otherwise known as Rugbylthr! He was in town visiting family and we hadn’t seen him in a while, so what more perfect timing could we have in order to talk a friend into letting us ask all about his kinks!

We take the time with him to discuss what it is like to be a volunteer for Mid-Atlantic Leather weekend (MAL) and being a part of the leather club scene on the east coast. He also shares the hilarious story that involves Flank Steak. A LOT of flank steak!

This has been an episode that we have been looking forward to posting ever since we recorded it!

 

Show Notes

Discussion Topics

  • Family and having to have separate social media accounts – don’t have them
  • East coast leather club culture
  • Consider the work a local club needs to do to put on an event
  • Education endeavors
    • BDSM and You, Widener University – Chester PA
    • Kinky Carnival – for 7 years
    • Bazaar on Quince – leather street fair

About Our Guest

Phil is a thick rugby player, beer drinker, and leather guy from Philadelphia.  He loves to roughhouse and leads an active social life on the East coast. Phil is also currently the event coordinator for Bazaar on Quince which is Philadelphia’s first leather and fetish block party, every October. Find him on Facebook and Recon.

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