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Episode 36 – Nightcat

Ok, we are just going to have to start out by saying this was a little bit of a wild one for our shows. We were all over the place and covered a lot of stuff, and had a great time doing it! We talk with our friend Nightcat who was also featured on mic in Episode 16 about furries. There were so many truly funny moments in the show that I have been waiting to put this out there for a while, and now is the perfect time!

Show Notes

 Discussion Topics

  • The first talk of the Popper Incident referenced in the post Whoops… Was All I Heard
  • Talking about poppers in general
  • “Peach Flavored Pussy Powder” You are just going to have to hear it to believe it
  • “I like the color 2”
  • Daddies’ X-mas presents
  • Sparky had to be bleeped this time.
  • The soon-to-be-infamous Fart Story!

About Our Guest

Nightcat has been in the furry fandom and in BDSM for over 15 years now. He enjoys kink and everything to do with it. He has lived in Seattle for over a decade and loves his family of Furs and Kinksters! Find him on TwitterRecon, and Fetlife.

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Episode 35 – Listener Letter

In this episode, we had a lot going on! First and foremost, we talked about a letter that was sent in to the show from listener BearPaul. We had actually written about the letter back in a post on the blog, How to Get Over Fear, but on the show we talked about it in a bit more depth than on the blog.


  • This was Brett’s first show, but he was tied up and gagged! (Why did we stop doing that??)
  • We talked about self image, feeling safe and facing fears
  • And also, stories about our trip to the Mid-Atlantic Leather contest!

You’ve got to check out this show!

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Episode 34 – Year In Chastity

Back when Dreadfire was still our roommate, a few months ago, his boyfriend from Chicago came to visit. Smarmaduke, or Aaron, might be best known for his blog (archived here) where he to chronicled being in chastity for an entire year! And after all that, he still wanted more… if you are a big fan of chastity, this one is the one for you.

We had a great time learning about Aaron, where he came from and started in kink, including his very first scene involving fisting!  And his adventures with getting on planes now that he is all locked up.

Sit back and enjoy getting to know our friend Aaron!


Show Notes

Discussion Topics

  • Experiences blogging his chastity for 1 year
  • What was it like starting in kink so young?
  • Coming out story
  • What is your preferred chastity device?
  • How do you clean it and yourself?
  • What was the reward for 1 year of chastity?
  • Will you do it again?

About Our Guestsmarmaduke full

Aaron otherwise known as Smarmaduke grew up in the midwest and now calls Chicago his home. After a very wholesome upbringing and religiously-tinged schooling he jumped in ass first to the scene and has never gone back. He broke into some community renown for his year of blogging under chastity… 365 days in a device. He lives with his boyfriend Dreadfire in Chicago. Find him on Twitter, Recon, and his archived blog A Year Under Lock and Key.

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Pride Parade: Our Family

This post is part 4 of 4 in the series Seattle Pride Parade 2013.


One of the best parts of celebrating Pride was being there with the members of our close leather family as well as our extended kink family. We had a great time! We love to find a shady spot and send out a call to all our friends and family to join us. After the end of the parade, we always go for a group lunch before the drinking and partying begins. As you can see, we were all ready to have a blast!


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Pride Parade: Center for Sex Positive Culture

This post is part 3 of 4 in the series Seattle Pride Parade 2013.




These are some photos from the recent pride parade of the entry by the Center for Sex Positive Culture. Here you will see the director, Allena, as well as the host of Cock Circus (and the man Sparky calls Sir), Daniel, a.k.a. VisibleRestraint.

Check out the moment when Allena gets flashed by Daddy Tony, and then getting flashed back. Priceless!

Be sure to check out the podcast episode where we interview both Allena and Daniel:

NoSafeWord Podcast Episode 31 – Center for Sex Positive Culture


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Pride Parade: Hobbit and Tyesha

This post is part 2 of 4 in the series Seattle Pride Parade 2013.

At the beginning of the Leather Contingent of Pride we got a visit from the past guests of the show, Hobbit & Tyesha! And as you can see, they attacked Daddy Tony.

If you haven’t listened yet, you have to check out the fun episode we recorded with these two! They are as fun and wild as they look! ;)

NoSafeWord Podcast Episode 28 – Tyesha and Hobbit

NoSafeWord Podcast Episode 29 – Tyesha and Hobbit Part 2


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Episode 33 – Phil’s Flank Steak

For this episode, which was the second one we ever recorded, we had on our friend Phil from Philadelphia, otherwise known as Rugbylthr! He was in town visiting family and we hadn’t seen him in a while, so what more perfect timing could we have in order to talk a friend into letting us ask all about his kinks!

We take the time with him to discuss what it is like to be a volunteer for Mid-Atlantic Leather weekend (MAL) and being a part of the leather club scene on the east coast. He also shares the hilarious story that involves Flank Steak. A LOT of flank steak!

This has been an episode that we have been looking forward to posting ever since we recorded it!


Show Notes

Discussion Topics

  • Family and having to have separate social media accounts – don’t have them
  • East coast leather club culture
  • Consider the work a local club needs to do to put on an event
  • Education endeavors
    • BDSM and You, Widener University – Chester PA
    • Kinky Carnival – for 7 years
    • Bazaar on Quince – leather street fair

About Our Guest

Phil is a thick rugby player, beer drinker, and leather guy from Philadelphia.  He loves to roughhouse and leads an active social life on the East coast. Phil is also currently the event coordinator for Bazaar on Quince which is Philadelphia’s first leather and fetish block party, every October. Find him on Facebook and Recon.

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Pride Parade: Dykes on Bikes

This post is part 1 of 4 in the series Seattle Pride Parade 2013.




No pride parade can begin without the opening of the Dykes on Bikes, and we certainly have a very rich and varied contingent of  dykes here in Seattle with very awesome bikes. The bikes make a wide circle, 2 blocks long, before moving ahead, snaking along the route. In most municipal parades you hear the sirens of an emergency vehicle leading the way, but in a pride parade you hear the thunderous rumble of a hundred Harleys roaring from a mile away!


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Episode 32 – Daddies Talking Daddies

Back when we first started planning the NoSafeWord show we made the decision to work on creating the website, designing the logos and setting up our social media outlets while at the same time recording some episodes that were not for immediate release. We didn’t have the mechanism to push out the episodes at the time, but we also put these episodes in cold storage for two reasons.

One was we wanted to have a library of episodes for when we couldn’t record a show, knowing that the month of July for us means constant work travel. So while we are away from home we have several episodes ready to post automatically for us.

The second reason is that we wanted to get the practice in for the show, an opportunity for us to work out the kinks (see what I did there?). But it was also a chance for all of us on the show to work out a flow between the two of us that we wanted to present. This means that the episode you are about to hear it a little raw.

Of those shows we put in the can, this is the first one, so those of us here at NoSafeWord HQ, it was our first episode. At the time we thought the first one should be about something that we (Daddy Tony & Sparky) share together, the journey of being Daddies. It was interesting to talk about the perspective of being a new Daddy (Sparky) as well as someone who has identified as a Daddy so much that its his name (DFT).

In the coming weeks we will be sharing more of our canned episodes, and will be back to recording new episodes in August!

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Episode 31 – Center for Sex Positive Culture

In our last show before our summer break, we wanted to have a discussion the fabulous Allena from the Center for Sex Positive Culture! She was one of the judges for the Best In Show event held by Seattle Pups and Handlers, SEA-PAH where we met her, and several people said, “You’ve got to have Allena on the show!”

How right they were.

And it worked out that we got to have Daniel, aka VisibleRestraint, on the show. These two have been close friends for a long time and perfect on the air together.

We talked all about the CSPC, including some history and what happens there. A lot of really interesting stories. We thinks this is helpful for everyone, even if you don’t come to Seattle to visit the center, perhaps there is a similar resource in your area. Or maybe you need to start one!


Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

About Our Guests

Daniel, otherwise known as VisibleRestraint, and Allena have been heavily involved with running the Center for Sex Positive Culture, a playspace in Seattle. Daniel also runs a monthly play party in that space, Cock Circus. Find Daniel on Twitter, Recon, and at his website.


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Upcoming Podcast Releases

Hey all!

Daddy Tony and myself (Sparky) are very soon going to be heading out of town for a few weeks. During that time we won’t be recording new episodes of the show. This Friday we will be recording the last show before we head out, and it is a great show you don’t want to miss.


We have a number of shows that we recorded earlier this year that we are very much looking forward to bringing to the light of day! We have shows with our friend from Philadelphia (Phil), a show with Nightcat, the first appearance of Brett (aka Pup Amp), and a fun show about chastity with Dreadfire’s boyfriend Smarmaduke. We will have a show with Mikey’s Ex, which proved quite interesting.

And we have the very first show recorded under NoSafeWord, with Daddy Tony and Sparky talking about what it is like to be a Daddy.

There was a lot of great stories, and the beginnings of traditions that you hear in the shows happening day by day, so this is exciting to share them out there.

For us, we will miss getting to do what we love, but for you out there, we have a whole month of great shows to keep it all going.  Then we will be on fresh new shows coming in August!

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Episode 30 – NuckPup

We have been seeing and following the crazy world of NuckPup for a while now. This guy has a lot on his plate, with a devoted partner to a job that keeps him busy, local play, and now a puppy of his own as well. His partner is also his sub, though wasn’t necessarily always so, which is an interesting story itself. Then add to it that the puppy is moving in, the very weekend this episode airs, and you can see that Nuckpup and Nucksub are both about ready to have a big change in their life.

And given that we all know the puppy, pup Striker, who is one of the most adorable and nicest puppies we know, makes the story all the more interesting. We care about the puppy and glad he is finding a home life that he wants, so we celebrate this move for him.

This story has a little bit for everyone. Polyamory is certainly a part of it, as well as submission, puppy play and becoming a slave. Balancing a kink life, and a sub finding his inner Dom is also big here. But overall it is a profile on one kinkster out there that is attempting to live life to the fullest, and going for a life that may be a challenge but also very rewarding.

We also had a listener email that we thought was perfect for this show to address.

I think this one you are going to love!


Show Notes

In the News

About Our Guest

NuckPup (Nuck/Sir) is the Alpha Dawg, Sir, and Head of Household proudly growing a leather household on the Canadian Prairies. For Nuck, leather, fetish, and kink have been part of his sexuality for over a decade, first as a boy, a collared pup, and now as a Sir. Nuck has a boy, Ray, who has been with him as a full time boy since 2006. pup Striker recently just joined their household! Find him on Recon and at his blog House of Nuckpup.

Listener Email

DFT and Sparky,

I’m writing to thank you and to ask a question. I was recently turned on to the show by a friend, and the timing was perfect since I needed a new podcast to listen to. I drive 8-10 hours a night for work and catching up on old shows has made for very entertaining shifts over the last week.

The podcast is exactly the kind of thing I’d been looking for for a while and exactly what I’d been needing. As someone with a keen interest in kink but not much experience I’ve been looking for a way to learn more. The thought of the organized community has always been mildly intimidating, and you guys have done a lot to break down that assumption even just in the week I’ve been listening, which I appreciate. It’s especially helpful since I’m planning a move to Seattle this fall, and it’s nice to hear that I should be able to find my way into the community if I’m willing to reach out and look for opportunities.

The question I have is about how to make that transition. Often times on the show you guys go back and forth about finding new boys to play with or help learn, and I was curious how you’d advise someone interested in the other side of things to go about learning more. I think I have the beginnings of a good headspace as a Daddy and a top that I’d like to develop further and I want to build some physical skills to match as best I can. I’m looking forward to being able to explore more in a larger city after I move, but how do I go about learning to be a good Daddy or pup handler or rope top? It doesn’t feel like it’s as built into the system as a Daddy mentoring his boy.

I’m really enjoying the show, and I just finished the two-parter with Daddy Jeff, which has probably been the best episode yet for me when it comes to learning more about the community. Keep up the good work, and I’d appreciate any advise you to wizened Daddies can provide.

-James, @StudyChemistry

PS- Brett on the mic in the Daddy Jeff episode was a definite bonus; I think he’s got to have one of the sexiest voices I’ve heard in a long while!


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Episode 29 – Tyesha and Hobbit, Part 2

After the great episode we had with Tyesha and Hobbit (see Part 1) we just had to continue on with the conversation in a part 2 episode. This one we decided to take up some topics regarding gender and gender identity.

The energy of this episode was amazing for both of us, having both a fun discussion but also really getting into some interesting discussions. We are very happy to have both of these awesome guests on the show!


Show Notes

Discussion Topics

  • Best in Show event recap
  • Discussions about Gender Identity
  • Gender Pronouns – She, He, Ze
  • “Tranny Bonus Hole”
  • Why is it ok to be irreverent and offensive

About Our Guests

Tyesha and Hobbit are two lovely ladies that lead open sexual lives. Hobbit is active in the Seattle Women of Leather and married a gay leather man (for the benefits). Tyesha is originally from Texas and writes for Leatherati. Find Tyesha on Twitter and Facebook.


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Episode 28 – Tyesha and Hobbit, Part 1

We met up with Tyesha and Hobbit during the rehearsals of the recent Best in Show event put on by SEA-PAH. We had such a great time getting to know them that night that we had decided that they needed to be on the show! This was a wild time, where we cover a bit about who Hobbit and Tyesha are, and where they came from. We also chat about queer issues, titles, hoo-has, alpacas, and a variety of play.

We also spend some time talking about Mama Sandy Reinhardt, and the renowned Mama’s Family. You can find out more about her at mamasfamily.org. Hopefully we can get her on the show soon!

You are just going to have to hear this one to believe it!

Show Notes

In the News

About Our Guests

Tyesha and Hobbit are two lovely ladies that lead open sexual lives. Hobbit is active in the Seattle Women of Leather and married a gay leather man (for the benefits). Tyesha is originally from Texas and writes for Leatherati. Find Tyesha on Twitter and Facebook.


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