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Episode 48 – Rainfurrest

Recently here in Seattle, there was a fairly big convention for furries, which is called Rainfurrest. We sometimes think that the kink community in general doesn’t really appreciate the scope of some of these furcons that happen all over the place! They are very well attended and there is a lot going on.

We decided to talk to our friend Nightcat about what a furcon is like and what goes on at this particular event as well as some of those in general.

There may be some great lessons for all of us regarding how to put on a big event so spending some time talking about what they are doing to put them on can be helpful to us all.

We mentioned several different furcons and events, which are linked below:

 

Show Notes

 In the News

About Our Guest

 

Nightcat has been in the furry fandom and in BDSM for over 15 years now. He enjoys kink and everything to do with it. He has lived in Seattle for over a decade and loves his family of Furs and Kinksters! Find him on Twitter, Recon, and Fetlife.

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Episode 47 – It’s A Real Pisser!

We were asked by the Seattle Men in Leather to help do a presentation about Piss Play as a part of their Tribal Instincts educational series. We packed up the studio and headed on down to the Center for Sex Positive Culture to record this show before a live audience.

We had a great audience of about 35 or so who were there ready to get wet. For this show we decided to have a couple of demos. The first with Sleepy and eXploited where one drank the others piss while pissing on himself. The other was with Stormwind who was tied up and dropped into the kiddy pool before the audience was invited to come up to piss on him all at once, which ended up being about 15 or so guys.

If you are interested in some of the items we discussed on the show, here are some links to those products:

 

And, if you are in the Seattle area be sure to check out the products we talked about by going to Dog House Leathers!

We also made mention to the Drysuit scene Sparky had a IML one year, which you can check out at: http://nosafeword.com/posts/iml-drysuit-bondage-and-ws/

It was a great time, hope you enjoy!

 

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Episode 46 – Figaro!

We had the pleasure to have on our show our friend Pup Figaro, the recent winner of the newly created Northwest Puppy Contest. He was joined by his handler, Wruff Pack Handler, and their Squeak Toy!

We had a discussion all about his journey to becoming a pup and a kinkster, and his experience with the contest. We also talk about their very interesting family dynamic and the number of pups in their pack. How they keep it all in their head, I’ll never know!

It was a good time and a wild night that we are happy to have you be a part of! Enjoy!

 

Show Notes

 In the News

About Our Guest

Pup Figaro is a musician and pup extraordinaire from Vancouver, B.C. Canada. He is very active in VAH-PAH and other Northwest puppy groups. He lives with his handler Wruff Pack Handler, and with their Squeak Toy. Find him on Facebook and Twitter.

 

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Episode 45 – A Shot in the Dart

This week we have the honor of being joined by none other than Sir Dart of Dart’s Domain. From the beginning of this podcast we had hoped to get certain people on the show because we love and respect their work, and Dart was at the top of that list!

We talk about numerous things, including his early days of doing shoots with Bound and Gagged Magazine and Captured Guys. We explore the journey he went on to be come a leather man himself, as well as discuss some of the current and past viewpoints about what being a leather man means.

We talk about his own podcast and what he hopes to do with it in the future. And we talk all about the relationship between him and his really hot husband!

And finally, for those of you that haven’t hear the story about him and Captain Janeway, now is your chance!

We had a great time with him, and can’t wait for him to come back!

 

Show Notes

 In the News

About Our Guest

Dart has loved bondage and kink for many years. He started out as a sub and now nothing turns his crank more than being a muscled up sub roped at his mercy. He embraces the idea of being a part of the “New Guard” of leather and using kink to feel GOOD and have FUN! He stays active playing/judging/teaching/performing at leather and BDSM events around the country. He lives near Atlanta with his partner Bart. Find him at his blog Dart’s Domain.

 

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Episode 44 – American Savage, Part 2

This is the second part to our fun interview with Dan Savage. Make sure to listen to Part 1 if you haven’t yet! In this episode we take some listener questions for Dan on all manner of topics.

It was a great time, and we want to thank Dan for coming on the show!

 

Show Notes

About Our Guest

Dan Savage is a sex advice columnist, activist, author, and podcaster from Seattle. Listen to his podcast The Savage Lovecast and read his writing on The Stranger at The Savage Love and SLOG.

 

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Episode 43 – American Savage, Part 1

When we asked Dan Savage  to join us on the show, we were floored when he said yes! He joined us for our regular Friday night recording to do a 2 hour show. We talked to him about how he first got started with his column as well as his new book! (Find Dan’s Book, American Savage, on Amazon)

His book talks about Faith, Sex, Love and Politics, so we came up questions about each one of those topics to pose to Dan. And in Part 2 we will have some questions from listeners who wanted to ask Dan some advice questions. We also get a chance to talk to him about the It Gets Better Project.

We also mention on the show Tynan Fox’s current effort to open an inclusive coffee shop using a kickstarter, you can find out more about it at: http://www.tynanfox.com/2013/08/-latte.html.

 

Show Notes

 In the News

About Our Guest

Dan Savage is a sex advice columnist, activist, author, and podcaster from Seattle. Listen to his podcast The Savage Lovecast and read his writing on The Stranger at The Savage Love and SLOG.

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Episode 42 – The Leatherati

Today, we have the cofounders of the kinky blog and news portal, Leatherati. We spend some time talking with them about many of aspects of their lives, including  their long term relationship with each other and the new boys/dogs in their lives. We also talk about their working on Leatherati and why they started it, and some of the controversies and challenges they have had running a leather news site. Last but not least, we discuss their work with putting on the West Coast Rubber Contest.

All in all, it was a very fun show, and we were glad we finally got to have them on the mic!

 

Show Notes

 In the News

About Our Guests

Loran and Alex have been well known members of the leather and rubber communities for many years, and partners to each other for many more. In recent years they have been most well known for their website, Leatherati. They and their army of kinky writers are out there gathering up the news of the leather world and sharing it with thousands of kinky fuckers the world over. If you don’t follow Leatherati, you should!

 

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Audience Responses to Episode 41 Questions

Like we did for Episode 40, for this show we put out some questions to our audience, both via twitter and the crew watching in the studio, some questions about kink in general. We read some of the answers on the air, but we had a few more that we wanted to make sure got shared here. So here we go!

 

What does the word “kink” mean to you?

  • It’s a word to explain an affinity for an object or action
  • Something unusual or not generally mainstream
  • Would a ↑ in popularity of BDSM following books like 50SoG mean its no longer kink
  • A deviation from the conventional; standing out from the norm with pride
  • An unexpected twist, going in a different direction (like with a hose). I just made that up, but it makes sense to me
  • Outside the realm of vanilla sex
  • That which I do not discuss with my mother
  • Use of a fetish to achieve sexual or personal happiness
  • “Alternative” – Not mainstream but still part of a community
  • Of or related to alternative sexual tendencies and practices
  • A way to express yourself
  • A sexual preference or particular interest that is not a social norm or “vanilla” practice and can be characterized accordingly
  • Proud to live outside the norm
  • It means any kind of sex outside normalcy or involving objects or clothing
  • Things that are enjoyable and not common in mainstream society
  • Knowing what gets you off, not being ashamed to go out and get it, making no apologies along the way
  • Having an interest in a more sexual manner
  • Sex against the grain

 

What was it that you found to be kinky at one time that has become less so as you have developed into kink?

  • Butt sex
  • Simple rope bondage
  • Handcuffs – Now are not but a placeholder
  • Everything is more familiar and little remains taboo
  • Pup play. Dan/son. Master/slave.
  • Nothing
  • Furry
  • Rough sex, I guess
  • Speaking for myself, 99.9% of what I do is ‘kinky’ – but I have stopped thinking of it like that – now it’s just Tuesday
  • Biting. I used to thing that it was so hot and kinky when I was younger, but now it is just expected with play partners
  • Rimming or fursuit sex… Both seem pretty tame now in retrospect compared to some other things I’ve done
  • Is vore even considered kinky despite the sheer impossibility?
  • Spanking/light hitting. Seems to be part and parcel now
  • If “kinky” = “out of the ordinary/weird”, then umm…lots? shower WS, spit, spanking, pinning/wrestling…
  • Spanking
  • Satin soccer shorts
  • In order of discovery: Domination/submission, watersports, chastity, CBT, pup play, bondage
  • Hooded and Bound outdoors At night Alone
  • Piss! By far
  • Chasity and ice cold showers

 

Is there a kink that you have that would be very embarrassing if you ‘vanilla’ friends were to find out?

  • “a” kink??? Dang… I got way more than one!
  • Not at all. It’s part of my identity. It’s an all or nothing acceptance with me.
  • This under the assumption I have vanilla friends? lol
  • well, according to the scale I’m a “opportunistic necrophiliac”. I’d just kill my friends if they found out tho :3 *huuugs*
  • Um… pretty much all of them? I’m guessing my flagging yellow would top the list though
  • Yes. ‘Nuff said.
  • Not really as I don’t recall having any vanilla friends left, they’re all kinksters or furries
  • Not really, they might freak out yes, but that just encourages me to go into graphic detail on the matter
  • No, but a neighbor in town revealed he is an AB daddy and now gets teased for it mercilessly
  • yup! Deep down, but I never do would be Sissy play because it’s the only thing to “truly” get me into a humiliation scene
  • My love for being padded would totally confuse my vanilla friends
  • They barely blink an eye at the flogging, but the w/s would probably raise eyebrows. (^_^)
  • Hmm… all of them? Would depend on the ‘vanilla’ level of that friend :)
  • Diaper lover, Furry
  • Yes, ABDL play
  • Pup play
  • No, I’ve lost my shame- gene somewhere!
  • Water sports
  • Nope, if they find out, I’ll just tell them more about it!
  • Yes. ABDL

 

As kinksters we know that our kinks enrich our lives. What kink do you think your vanilla friends should pick up to make their lives better?

  • BDSM!
  • Bondage with a side of D/s
  • M/s or at least bondage……lots of trust gets built up in good scenes involving these
  • Learn to embrace (and riff on) the D/s dynamic. How to relinquish control, and how to wield control properly
  • puppy play!
  • kink helped me gain self-confidence
  • Negotiation. Informed consent
  • Exercise
  • Specifically, I would say rubber, bondage, open relationships. More generally speaking, my vanilla friends should always expand beyond the plain/vanilla and try something they aren’t familiar with
  • Bondage – as a way to encourage folks to communicate with each other more and to be more honest with themselves and each other
  • Kinksters talk about sex, what they want and do not want. Vanilla folk could use that
  • Dominance and submission… they are natural instincts
  • Dom/sub play. As play, it’s consensual, you can change roles, and (generally) no one gets hurt
  • BDSM, fuzzy handcuffs
  • Bondage and S&M
  • Jesus!
  • Anything with a close knit community. It’s a sense of belonging with your dirtiest secret in common and out in the open

 

 

 

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Audience Responses to Episode 40 Questions

During Episode 40 with Neil we put out some questions to our listeners, both via our twitter feed and to the group of guys we had over for the show’s recording. There were a lot of interesting answers to the questions, and since we were not able to get to them all we thought we would share them here with you!

 

Do you have a fantasy involving hypno? Tell us what it is!

  • Yes to be completely turned into a submissive puppy !
  • The text book one. Going to a hypno session with a hot guy and ‘waking up’ all tied up and playing bondage games
  • To be more comfortable while in bondage
  • Forcibly hypnotized to follow directions and act like a mindless puppy
  • I have a fantasy about being hypnotized, abducted and taken to a place where I m used to feed a tribe of men who worship me for my cock
  • Making a guy (or me) really horny (or helping enhance the libido) – off the charts horny – then making it difficult or impossible to achieve orgasm
  • Yes to be hypnotized into believing I’m being sung to by Uncle Jesse era John Stamos. He is singing “Do You Think I’m Sexy)

If you had the ability to effectively hypnotize someone else, what would you be excited to hypno them to do?

  • massaging my feet
  • I’d make everyone into puppies!!!!! :D
  • Can I hypnotize them to hypnotize me? *blinks* :P
  • I can and have to a couple people in college. I’m really not comfortable with that level of control over others though
  • hmm. I’d be evil and give them an involuntary reaction like having to lick boots when they see them
  • have them listen to your show! ;) and maybe some other things too. -wags-
  • I would be excited to hypno them into their ideal fantasy
  • I would have them recognize me as Master, I guess. Never really thought about it. P.S., I’d make DFT dance like a monkey! :)
  • Laugh at inappropriate moments
  • Control sex drive by making him horny, or not, regardless of what he wants. Control in this way is very hot
  • I would want them obsessed with my DNA. Wanting to stalk me at the gym, flirt with me at bars, and happy to lick up anything I leave on the floor, because it is my essence
  • Humiliate them, have them pleasure themselves and make them feel like they’re getting fucked
  • Lay there while I fuck myself on them, and/or  clean my house naked
  • Bondage without ropes

If you could ask anything you have wanted to know about hypno, what would it be?

  • How do I know you won’t hypno me into getting naked every time someone says dog! (Or insert other crazy thing here)
  • How do you know what files work and what are safe or how to find safe people interested in it.
  • I asked @Erotic_Hypno a long winded question last week but I’d ask “Could you make time for me this weekend?” were I around
  • How about more case studies (good and bad). What were the big successes & worst oopses? Respecting privacy of course.
  • Well what mindset should a sub be in to try hypno and what can they do to allow themselves to go under more easily?
  • I guess how effective are verbal triggers? Looking to implant one in me to turn into an obedient pup.
  • Can you fly to pupstriker and do dirty hypno-ish things to him…..*evil Wags*
  • Is it brain washing? How far can it make someone go?
  • I’ve often heard hypnotists tell people they will wake up very rested the next morning. Why does this happen? And is that always the case?
  • Does it work on everyone?
  • Are some more susceptible than others?
  • Can anyone do it? Both as a hypnotist and a subject? Can it control physical aspects of the body?
  • What is the best possible outcome to a first session?
  • What are the different ways to put someone under?
  • Whats the most common form of hypnosis you are asked to perform?
  • How long can you be under?
  • Can it work on someone who doesn’t necessarily believe it will work?
  • Why does it work on some people and not on others?

 

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Episode 41 – One in the Kink, Two in the Stink

After we recorded our last episode with Neil (See Episodes 6 and 13 and 40) we had decided to do a show where we talk just about kink in general. We talk all the time about kink but we never really have defined it before now.

Before the show we asked both our in-studio audience and our listeners via twitter the following four questions:

  1. What does the word “Kink” mean to you?
  2. What was it that you found to be kinky at one time that has become less so as you have developed into kink?
  3. Is there a kink that you have that would be very embarrassing for you in your ‘vanilla’ friends were to find out?
  4. As kinksters we know that our kinks enrich our lives. What kink do you think your vanilla friends should pick up to make their lives better?

We spend a lot of time talking about this and many other things as well, we hope you enjoy!

 

Show Notes

 In the News

About Our Guest

Neil has been doing hypnosis since 2001, at first as a hobby (and tool of sexual exploration) and since 2009, as a full-time job. Practicing hypnosis lead him to discover his dominant side and explore the BDSM world. Neil lives in New York City. Find him on TwitterRecon, and his blog The Erotic Hypnotist.

 

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Episode 40 – You Are Feeling Very Kinky

Neil came to Seattle for a visit, so this was the perfect time to have him on the mic for a show and a follow-up. We posted up a lot of questions to our audience via our twitter account, asking such questions as:

If you could ask anything you have wanted to know about hypno, what would it be?

Do you have a fantasy involving hypno? Tell us about it!

If you had the ability to effectively hypnotize someone else, what would you be excited to hypno them to do?

We spend the episode reading and responding to our listeners answers to these questions, creating some fascinating discussion along the way! Hope you very much enjoy this episode!

 

Show Notes

 In the News

About Our Guest

Neil has been doing hypnosis since 2001, at first as a hobby (and tool of sexual exploration) and since 2009, as a full-time job. Practicing hypnosis lead him to discover his dominant side and explore the BDSM world. Neil lives in New York City. Find him on TwitterRecon, and his blog The Erotic Hypnotist.

 

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Episode 39 – Up Your Folsom!

Nearly every kinkster out there has heard of the big street fair in San Francisco in their days. While I (Sparky) have never been able to go, both Daddy Tony and Mikey have been a part of the events, given they are from SF. Folsom Street Fair and Up Your Alley are events that get universal praise for a great time from all the kinksters I know that have been.

“You’ve got to go this year!”

Every year I hear it, but I never had the chance to go because I have always been out of town for work. So it was really exciting to get first hand knowledge about the events directly from the executive director of the organization that puts the event on!

Demitri was very helpful in providing a lot of great info and stories about the event. Even if you have been there before you are going to learn something new! Got to check this show out!

 

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

  • What are the events?
  • The history of Folsom Street Events
  • What don’t people know? What are the events not?
  • More about the upcoming Folsom Street Fair

About Our Guest

Demitri is the Executive Director of Folsom Street Events, best known for putting on the Folsom Street Fair and Up Your Alley kink events in San Francisco.

 

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Episode 38 – Slavepup Axel

This pup was in town for the Northwest Puppy Contest recently, where Daddy Tony got a chance to meet him. It seemed like a natural fit to talk with him about his experience as the current International Puppy title holder.  Slavepup Axel is a bouncy pup with a lot of energy, and he is more than happy with focusing that energy on representing the pup community.

We talk about all sorts of puppy related issues and what it is like being a title holder puppy!

 

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

  • Who is Slavepup Axel?
  • How he got the international title
  • What is it like being a judge at the Northwest Puppy Contest?
  • Organizing, community, and fundraising for kink groups
  • Talk to the puppy just getting started

About Our Guest

Slavepup Axel is International Puppy 2013, the first pup to win the title since the organization was created in 2011. He identifies as part tolling retriever, part submissive, and part butthead-mutt. This year, he has appeared in 13 states and 2 provinces, performing demonstrations, fundraising for pup groups and charities, representing International Puppy, and advocating for pups in the leather and kink communities. S.P. Axel is handled, trained, humiliated, abused, and loved by Master Kevin Chaulk of Vancouver and Sir Kevin Mischka of Washington, D.C. He lives with his husband of 15 years in Richmond, Virginia. Find him on Facebook and his blog.

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Episode 37 – Daddy Fucking Giggles

Only because it is legal in Washington, Daddy Tony and Sparky decided to imbibe a certain cookie at the beginning of the show to see if we could make it through. We did… sorta. Barely.

If you want to understand the name of the show, listen to the end through the credits. A little extra for ya all.

We had a lot to cover as you can see from the show notes, and we had a great time doing it. Can’t wait for the next one!

 

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

  • Wacky tobacky cookies
  • While we were away, On the road for work
  • Sergio
  • Working late at night
  • Damien’s BBC
  • Northwest Puppy Contest
  • Atlanta Play Party
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