Earlier this week the gay community was rocked by the news of the passing of Jason Lynch, the current Mister International Rubber. Those of us here at NoSafeWord extend our heartfelt condolences to his partner and his family as they deal with this heart wrenching loss. We also want to extend our hearts and support to all those throughout the community who are dealing with this loss.
Over the course of the last ten years I have experienced the loss of those close to me, and those whom I have just started to get to know (as I was with Jason, having exchanged messages with him in the last several months and I am sad I won’t continue to get to know him). In each of those past loses, one overriding commonality between each is that they were wonderful individuals who loss was felt by many.
Last night I was chatting with a fellow rubberman who was particularly hit by this loss, both because of the love and respect he had come to have for Jason, and I suspect likely because this is the first such death of a fellow kinkster. The sadness he was feeling was overwhelming and deep, and I certainly don’t fault him for that.
When someone has such a loss it is difficult to find any words that can help make anyone feels better. But that doesn’t mean it isn’t possible to at least try.
Jason has become know within our community as someone who embodied many of the qualities we should strive to live up to. Full of life and enjoying it. Caring to his brethren. A committed and loving husband. Willing to step forward to take on the responsibility of first a regional title, and then a national title. Respected and admired by many throughout our community. Having the courage to take the small steps necessary to making this community better, one person at a time.
Each and everyone of us that has felt this loss, be it me, or the person I was chatting with last night, or anyone else reading these words, each of us can only hope to live up to that memory and try in our own ways to try to live up to those same ideals that Jason was just starting to represent as the MIR. Maybe each and everyone one us can each continue his work as MIR.
Maybe that is how we will turn this tragic loss into a legacy.
Rest in peace, Jason.