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Episode 60 – Kink Porn

Christian asked us if we would ever have a porn star on the show, and we thought, Why NOT! We want to talk to everyone in our kink world and get all the perspectives that are out there, and this was a great way to get the story of what it is like to be a kink porn actor. Sure we all look at porn, but how many of us ever get the chance to be in person.

What is it like? How do you get into it? What do your husband or your family think about your job? How do you prepare?

Amazingly fun getting to know him and we were happy to have him on the show!

Show Notes

In the News

About Our Guest

 

In less than a year after finally deciding to dive into the world of gay porn, Los Angeles-based adult actor and model Christian Mitchell has already shot movies with some of the top studios in the business. Despite entering the industry later in life, Mitchell’s intense features and extensive experience as a BDSM bottom were fast to catch the attention of award-winning Director Christian Owen, who quickly cast him in one of Hot House’s Club Inferno movies for his porn debut.  Since then, he has gone on to star in films from Raging Stallion/Fetish Force, Titan Rough and numerous scenes for online porn sites. 

 

Mitchell is a nominee for Cybersocket Magazine’s 2014 “Best New Porn Star” award. In addition to his studio work, Mitchell has modeled products for Mr S Leather and appeared in their hardcore video demos.  He is also a model for TwistedDNA4SXY.com fetish home furnishings and writes about various Kink and BDSM subjects for their company blog. An admitted kinkster and blatant fetishist, Mitchell credits his years as a member of L.A.’s Avatar BDSM Club as a big reason for his success in porn  Years of participating in Avatar’s public “safe, sane and consensual” BDSM demonstrations gave him the confidence to step in front of the camera. Mitchell strongly believes that safe sex saves lives and, as a result, he only stars in roles using condoms, gloves and recognized safe sex practices.    

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Episode 59 – Pervertables Part 2

For this episode we finish up our discussion about Pervertables, cover a lot more than we did the last time. This was a fun one to make!

Remember, you can always email us with your stories of how you have made your own pervetables. Can’t wait to hear what you come up with!

 

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Episode 58 – Pervertables Part 1

For this show we decided to do something a little bit different. We wanted to talk with the two kinksters that we personally know that love playing with all kinds of “pervertables”, so we invited on Sparky’s Sir, VisibleRestraint, and DrewLion.

For those that haven’t heard the term before, pervertables are items that were not intended to be perverted but can be purposed in all kinds of kink play. The thought here was that by discussing all the different kinds of pertables and share some stories on how they can be used, we can spur some ideas out there for our listeners.

We want to hear from you and your stories of pervertables. Tell us about any we missed, or fun stories about the pervertables that you have used. Can’t wait to hear what you come up with!

This along with listener letters and this was a great show!

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Shorts 07 – Venus

For this show we have on the makers of the Venus 2000 milking machine. We wanted to know more about this history of this product, since it has been around for a while, and diverse communities that make up the customer base. Both Dave and Bunny from the company were great to get to know and very open about their process.

This was a great episode and we learned a lot about them, so we are very much looking forward to bring this one to you!

 

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Shorts 06 – Things-that-are-similar Game

Ok, I feel like we have done more than enough in “borrowing” a game show format, so in the text I am just going to call it “Things that are similar Game”. You will get it when you listen to it.

This show was recorded back during the same night as the episode of Daddy Tony’s birthday! (Episode 53, listne to it at http://nosafeword.com/posts/episode-x-2/ )

That night we decided to do a little fun time because we had everyone there, so this show is just us playing the game, but as you will hear it was a damn good time!

We were lucky to have Mama Tits for this episode, along with a lot of our friends playing along. Enjoy!

 

About Our Guest

Seattle’s Skyscraper Hostess, the One and Only Mama Tits is the creation of Brian Daniel Peters. You may recognize her as the former Host of LeFaux at Julia’s on Broadway from 2010-2011 or as one of the hosts of the Seattle Pride Parade for the past 4 years alongside Sylvia O’Stayformore at the 4th and Bell stage. Mama Tits was one of the hosts of the 2010 Pride-fest Main stage at Seattle Center, she was the Original Hostess of the hottest weekday club night on Capitol Hill, ElektroPoP! from 2011-2012, and the Original hostess of the Capitol Hill Talent Show. Mama is also the Producer and Star of “Mimosas with Mama”, Seattle’s #1 and Longest running weekly Drag Brunch, and works various private events around the Seattle area and across the country. Find her at twitter.com/TheMamaTits or facebook.com/TheMamaTits.

 

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Shorts 05 – Vince Andrews

For this episode in our Shorts Series, we interview the author Vince Andrews about his two books he has published, the Leather Boy Handbook and To Walk with Strangers. Both are unique and interesting books from two completely different ends of the spectrum of kink books.

We talk with Vince to get to know him a little better, as well as to explore what is both the books, his motivations for writing them and where he drew his characters from. This was an interesting episode that we hope you enjoy!

Show Notes

Discussion Topics

www.adynatonpublishing.com

The leather boy handbook

https://www.facebook.com/TheLeatherboyHandbook
To Walk with Strangers

https://www.facebook.com/groups/374041089363154/

 

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Mr. S Leather Co.

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Episode 57 – Leland

This is the week of hearing from the female kinkster perspective, and this week we have Leland, who is the Co-Editor-in-Chief of Leatherati and we discuss with her the many other ways she supports the kink/leather community.

We wanted to talk to her because she is so close to the kink community and this was a great way to hear a female point of view. We think that our sisters can give us value lessons on how to approach kink, both in the ways that we are similar and the ways that we are unique.

This ended up being a great conversation and had a lot of fun

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

  • Editor of Leatherati
  • Moving to Portland from San Francisco
  • Community organizing
  • Judging contests
  • Portland organizations
  • Her relationship with boi

About Our Guest

You can find out more about Leland and what she is all about by going to http://lelandcarina.com/updates/leather-community-resume/. You can also find her on Leatherati!  http://www.leatherati.com/.

 

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Episode 56 – It’s a Pug

Puppy play is all the rage nowadays, with all the boys flocking to get their mitts on the latest hoods and tails. With all the fury of all that is going on, sometimes we forget that some of our kink sisters are puppies as well.

When I think of female pups, I always think of Pug. I have known her for years, having been introduced by some mutual friends. If you know her, you know Pug is someone that takes care of her friends and fellow pups, and just a delightful personal all around.

We thought that it would be a great way to bring up the topic of female pups by inviting her on the show and talking about who she is, where she comes from and where her kinks come from.

It was a great discussion and I am so glad she joined us on the show!

 

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

  •  Who is Pug
  • Being a female pup in the pup community
  • Her being a part of a gay leather family
  • LA Boys of Leather
  • Southern California Leather Gathering

 

Sponsors

Mr. S Leather Co.

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Episode 55 – Loki on the Law

While most of the time BDSM play is all find and safe, there are some pitfalls you can run into with the law from time to time. To help prevent those times, or to help protect yourself in case they do, we decided to do a show all about the law. We asked on our friend Loki, who is an attorney and has done workshops on these very issues at kink related events in the past.

We cover a wide variety of topics, all the way from consent and domestic violence, to kidnapping scenes and copyright of your personal porn images. It ended up being a very interesting discussion (that was also enhanced by Drewlion tied to the table in the background with a Venus 2000 milker hooked on).

 

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

  • Can’t consent to crimes against the person like assault
  • Always keep prescriptions in their bottle, especially narcotics
  • Domestic violence calls
    • Visible Bruises may result in call long after scene
  • Kidnap scenes
    • Probable cause to search
    • Safety
  • Cops
    • Comply
    • Be polite
    • Repeat “do not consent” to search
    • Party etiquette
    • Keep toys in locked bag in car
    • Lock car if you get out
  • Therapists / Attorney privilege
    • Privileged unless risk of serious harm to self or others
  • Ncsf
  • Pictures and recordings
  • Porn, tumblr, copyrights

About Our Guest

Loki is a friend of our from Atlanta, and someone we adore. We are so happy he was able to join us for this show. He is both an Alpha Pup and Handler. He is also the Director of the Atlanta Dominion play party, which you can find out more about by going to http://atlantadominion.com/

 

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Mr. S Leather Co.

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Episode 54 – Metalbond

For this show we have on Metal from the www.metalbondnyc.com blog! For those that follow all the kink blogs out there, this is a primary site you should be following. The site is full of pics and stories that you are going to love.

We got to know Metal himself and more about his kinks, and why it is that he does the blog. He put together some words about himself so you can get to know him better:

As they may have mentioned, I met Daddy Tony and Mikey when I visited the Serious Male Bondage Institute in SF a few years back.

My primary sexual interest is in inescapable bondage, especially locking metal. I’ve spent many happy, long weekends locked up (out-of-town) in jail cells, straitjackets, sleepsacks and rubber gear. I also host others for play in my tiny walkup apartment in Manhattan. I have drawers, closets and shelves full of leather restraints, ropes, handcuffs, shackles, chains and padlocks — and I even have a steel puppy cage under my loft bed.

I have been wired this way for as long as I can remember. Sexually, I am way more interested in bondage with a guy than in fucking. Always have been and probably always will be. I played tie-up games with neighborhood friends as a kid back in Michigan. The first time I ever ejaculated was after I had restrained myself in my bedroom with belts and realized I could not get out. I sent away for my first pair of handcuffs through a mail order catalog and later kept them hidden in my dorm room at college. Now I have more handcuffs than I know what to do with.

One of the first things I did when I moved to New York City in 1992 was go to the New York Bondage Club, where I was tied up by Bob Wingate and James Bond on my first night there. Later I joined GMSMA (Gay Male SM Activists), a NYC-based organization dedicated to promoting safe, sane and consensual sm. I was editor of NewsLink, the GMSMA newsletter, for six years and served on its board of directors. (GMSMA closed down in 2009.)

Also as part of my “kink resume,” I competed as a bootblack at IML, way back in 1998 and 1999, and was first runner-up both years.

I started up the Metalbond website about five years ago. The reason? I realized I had so many pictures and stories on my hard drive, that I felt it would be a shame not to share it with others. So I set up the site, and vowed to keep updating it regularly. At least once a day, sometimes two or three times a day.

 Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

  •  The MetalbondNYC.com website, and why he started it
  • How long has Metal been into kink
  • The rant about the difference between clips versus locks
  • His past experiences with Bob Wingate and James Bond
  • Does running a blog get you more action

About Our Guest

Be sure to check out Metal Bonds website by going to www.metalbondnyc.com

 

Sponsors

Mr. S Leather Co.

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Shorts 04 – Poppers

A listener sent in a question that we decided to address in this Shorts episode. Here is what they sent:

I actually have a questions about the episode (referring to Episode 51 – Covering Recovery). Where do poppers fall into the discussion of drugs during play (in your opinion)?

So, we take this on with the research that we were able to find to discuss the use of poppers. It ended up being a great discussion that we tackle this topic from several different angles.

Enjoy!

 

Show Notes

About Our Guest

DT Tony and DT Bri are kinksters from the U.K., living in Chester, U.K., near Manchester and Liverpool. They are into BDSM, CP, face fucking, BC, gloves, oral, anal, CBT, TT, milking, dildos, electro, gags, leather, rubber, and so much more. It was fun getting to know them! Find them at recon.com/doubletop.

 

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Episode 53 – Turning 50 is a Drag

It is Daddy Tony’s Birthday! And he’s 50! He can kick! And Stretch! And KICK!

We decided one fun way we could celebrate his birthday was to have party for the show recording, so we invited a bunch of our friends and turn it into a fun night! Thank you to everyone that joined.

The other way we decided to bring over a friend of the show, Seattle’s own Mama Tits. Two of the most visible and organized sub-groups of the gay community are the leather/kink crowd and the drag queens. Yet there are times when the line between these two is very clearly drawn, even though we all are working towards the same time goal! So we decided to take some time to talk with Mama Tits to talk about the relationship between our two communities.

Even if you are not into drag or drag queens yourself, this is a chance to learn more about our sisters and where they are coming from.

This was a wild one and we hope you enjoy!

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Show Notes

In the News

  1. Guy wrecks his apartment after having sex with a gay demon
  2. World plagued by horrible fish sex sound
  3. 15 lies about sex “we” have all told
  4. Guy cuts off his own penis then forgets it

Discussion Topics

  •  Relationship of kink and drag
  • “Clown Fuckers”
  • “Drag” lets us come out of our shell
  • Growing up in rural America
  • Proudly being who you are in the world
  • Is drag a fetish?

About Our Guest

Seattle’s Skyscraper Hostess, the One and Only Mama Tits is the creation of Brian Daniel Peters. You may recognize her as the former Host of LeFaux at Julia’s on Broadway from 2010-2011 or as one of the hosts of the Seattle Pride Parade for the past 4 years alongside Sylvia O’Stayformore at the 4th and Bell stage. Mama Tits was one of the hosts of the 2010 Pride-fest Main stage at Seattle Center, she was the Original Hostess of the hottest weekday club night on Capitol Hill, ElektroPoP! from 2011-2012, and the Original hostess of the Capitol Hill Talent Show. Mama is also the Producer and Star of “Mimosas with Mama”, Seattle’s #1 and Longest running weekly Drag Brunch, and works various private events around the Seattle area and across the country. Find her at twitter.com/TheMamaTits or facebook.com/TheMamaTits.

Sponsors

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. Check out their new product, the Electro Paddle! Can’t wait to get one of these!

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Venus 2000

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Shorts 03 – Organizing a Puppy Group

For this show, we are joined by the president of Seattle Pups and Handlers (SEA-PAH), Matthew! The group has been going through the process of establishing all of the details it takes to be an organization. The board is meeting soon to discuss what comes next for the group.

It’s always interesting to check-in with groups when they are at this stage to see what is involved with taking the group up to that next level. It takes a lot of work to set up an organization to thrive for years to come. Litters of pups to come will be grateful!

 

Show Notes

Discussion Topics

  •  The “Julie the Cruise Director Story”
  • We get to know Matthew here is a bit
  • The structure of the puppy group
  • The types of events they put on
  • Their upcoming board retreat and why they are organizing

About Our Guest

Matthew is the president of Seattle Pups and Handlers (SEA-PAH), one of the upstart puppy groups taking root throughout the Northwest and the rest of the US. Check out their website for more information about  their group. Find Matthew at recon.com/ILove1stClass.

 

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather.

 

 

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Something Fishy

Catfish are a rare breed of fish in the kink community. Easy on the palette initially, catfish are a delicacy that’s never sought after, but it’s likely everyone will find it on the menu eventually. And make no mistake: Catfish are clever. They flop around for your attention and they might even give you a taste or two to whet your appetite. But before you know it — and long after you’re hooked and wanting more, they swim off — leaving you emptier than you were before encountering them. Even considering how fishy they truly smell (given the heightened senses of a puppy’s nose), a few catfish can slip past even the smartest and most aware puppies. As urban dictionary so appropriately describes them: “A catfish is someone who pretends to be someone they’re not, using Facebook or other social media to create false identities, particularly to pursue deceptive online romances,” and while that definition may appear somewhat harmless in the abstract, it doesn’t begin to account for the emotional damage a catfish can wreak on a pup.

How do I know? Well, there was a point in time when I was just getting into kink in general, before I knew I wanted to be a pup, that I started pursuing possible love interests/dates/play. Signing onto the many dating apps and chat rooms opened up a whole new world for me; one that offered many different points of view, with no one to tell me no, or direct me, or say, “Hey, get on your knees and suck this.” (At least I think that’s how a Disney movie would put it). But seriously, I was thrilled to know that I could log on and see who was within a 15-mile radius of my current location and exchange dirty/flirty comments with guys who wanted to do horrible, horrible, perversely awesome things to me. Even knowing this though, I was cautious: I did my weeding through the junk mail and creepers and chatted nicely with someone for long periods of time before meeting up, or even considering a “meat-and-greet,” for that matter.

Personal experiences…

Then he messaged me — the fishiest guy I’d ever had the chance to “meet” online. We chatted for what seemed like weeks, off and on. And at first, I was cautious of a guy who lived 500 miles away who had “happened” upon my profile that one day. At the time, he had a personality that was charming and dominant, with an endless supply of pictures for any occasion to back up those traits. He seemed legitimate. Weeks turned into a month, and wouldn’t you know it, but he was planning to move to my home city; he was looking for a new start and a new man to go with his new life. This should have been more than enough for me to say, “hold your horses” (or seahorses, in fish context), but I was still hopeful to meet this gorgeous guy who knew how to push my buttons. He continued to chat with me, lead me on, call me his pup and tell me of all the kinky things he knew I wanted done to me — all the while fishing for new details to keep me hooked. He would set a date for when he planned to visit, but some unforeseen disaster would always keep him from making good on his promise. He’d lost his job; his mother had a heart attack, there was a car accident . . .  whatever.

In conclusion…

That’s when I learned that the second you question a catfish or get upset because something smells fishy, he pivots to put the shame and blame on you for being insensitive or slow to trust. Long story short, I got somewhat attached to our conversations, but he never did visit. As a result, I became evermore cautious online. I also learned a good deal about protecting myself and my emotions — and about taking time to do the proper background checks that should accompany any kinky encounter.
Puppies, bless all their tail-wagging, squirrel-chasing hearts, are a rambunctious and affectionate bunch of kinksters. But sometimes, they’re naive and rush to attach to someone new and promising. They love unconditionally, follow those they hold close to the ends of the Earth, and they can often be very submissive. Puppies are also incredibly loyal to those who will chat and make them feel loved and cared for. Similarly, as online dating becomes more mainstream — with 59% of Americans regarding online introductions as a beneficial addition to the dating process (Herald News) — catfish are having a blast! I know several puppies who have fallen into a funk once a catfish has duped them, and just as many pups who’ve been taken advantage of because of how they’ve been told a puppy ought to behave. Puppies always have rights, though. And it’s certainly possible to avoid catfish and other fishy guys by keeping a few fundamentals in mind. This week, I’d alike to point out a few easy steps that will always ensure you pups go into a kinky discussion/playdate/whatever feeling safe, secure and ensuring you don’t get catfished:

  1. Trust your instincts. If it feels wrong, back off, ask more questions, or move on. Think with your brain, and not your dick. If it smells like a fish and acts like a fish, it’s probably a fish!
  2. Don’t play or plan to play privately with a stranger you don’t know. Do your background checks. Find them on Facebook. Ask them who they know in the kink/pup/bondage/daddy/sir/boy community in your area. The people who are worth playing with have real names, places where they work and and should have a circle of friends who will vouch for them.
  3. You have a voice! You don’t have to do what they say (and certainly not in this early discovery phase). A playdate/date/relationship, be it kinky or not, is about communicating. Remember that no one can take power from you that you don’t willingly surrender. It’s fine that you want to submit, but be sure first that the person you’re submitting to is going to treat you with respect for your safety and boundaries.
  4. Know what you’re getting into and be clear with the person you’re chatting with about precisely what is going to happen and how.
  5. Never assume. Always have a backup plan in case of a disaster. Play cautiously and never give anyone the benefit of the doubt without them first earning your trust.
  6. Never give out any personal information that could cause you trouble in the long run. Again, don’t trust anyone without them demonstrating first that they are trustworthy.
  7. Don’t think that just because they seem perfect, that they are. Catfish know how to play to your weaknesses and push your buttons. It’s a game they play very well.

Now go fish. And may your next catch be the guy of your dreams… literally!

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