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Episode 41 – One in the Kink, Two in the Stink

After we recorded our last episode with Neil (See Episodes 6 and 13 and 40) we had decided to do a show where we talk just about kink in general. We talk all the time about kink but we never really have defined it before now.

Before the show we asked both our in-studio audience and our listeners via twitter the following four questions:

  1. What does the word “Kink” mean to you?
  2. What was it that you found to be kinky at one time that has become less so as you have developed into kink?
  3. Is there a kink that you have that would be very embarrassing for you in your ‘vanilla’ friends were to find out?
  4. As kinksters we know that our kinks enrich our lives. What kink do you think your vanilla friends should pick up to make their lives better?

We spend a lot of time talking about this and many other things as well, we hope you enjoy!

 

Show Notes

 In the News

About Our Guest

Neil has been doing hypnosis since 2001, at first as a hobby (and tool of sexual exploration) and since 2009, as a full-time job. Practicing hypnosis lead him to discover his dominant side and explore the BDSM world. Neil lives in New York City. Find him on TwitterRecon, and his blog The Erotic Hypnotist.

 

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Episode 40 – You Are Feeling Very Kinky

Neil came to Seattle for a visit, so this was the perfect time to have him on the mic for a show and a follow-up. We posted up a lot of questions to our audience via our twitter account, asking such questions as:

If you could ask anything you have wanted to know about hypno, what would it be?

Do you have a fantasy involving hypno? Tell us about it!

If you had the ability to effectively hypnotize someone else, what would you be excited to hypno them to do?

We spend the episode reading and responding to our listeners answers to these questions, creating some fascinating discussion along the way! Hope you very much enjoy this episode!

 

Show Notes

 In the News

About Our Guest

Neil has been doing hypnosis since 2001, at first as a hobby (and tool of sexual exploration) and since 2009, as a full-time job. Practicing hypnosis lead him to discover his dominant side and explore the BDSM world. Neil lives in New York City. Find him on TwitterRecon, and his blog The Erotic Hypnotist.

 

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Episode 39 – Up Your Folsom!

Nearly every kinkster out there has heard of the big street fair in San Francisco in their days. While I (Sparky) have never been able to go, both Daddy Tony and Mikey have been a part of the events, given they are from SF. Folsom Street Fair and Up Your Alley are events that get universal praise for a great time from all the kinksters I know that have been.

“You’ve got to go this year!”

Every year I hear it, but I never had the chance to go because I have always been out of town for work. So it was really exciting to get first hand knowledge about the events directly from the executive director of the organization that puts the event on!

Demitri was very helpful in providing a lot of great info and stories about the event. Even if you have been there before you are going to learn something new! Got to check this show out!

 

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

  • What are the events?
  • The history of Folsom Street Events
  • What don’t people know? What are the events not?
  • More about the upcoming Folsom Street Fair

About Our Guest

Demitri is the Executive Director of Folsom Street Events, best known for putting on the Folsom Street Fair and Up Your Alley kink events in San Francisco.

 

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Episode 38 – Slavepup Axel

This pup was in town for the Northwest Puppy Contest recently, where Daddy Tony got a chance to meet him. It seemed like a natural fit to talk with him about his experience as the current International Puppy title holder.  Slavepup Axel is a bouncy pup with a lot of energy, and he is more than happy with focusing that energy on representing the pup community.

We talk about all sorts of puppy related issues and what it is like being a title holder puppy!

 

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

  • Who is Slavepup Axel?
  • How he got the international title
  • What is it like being a judge at the Northwest Puppy Contest?
  • Organizing, community, and fundraising for kink groups
  • Talk to the puppy just getting started

About Our Guest

Slavepup Axel is International Puppy 2013, the first pup to win the title since the organization was created in 2011. He identifies as part tolling retriever, part submissive, and part butthead-mutt. This year, he has appeared in 13 states and 2 provinces, performing demonstrations, fundraising for pup groups and charities, representing International Puppy, and advocating for pups in the leather and kink communities. S.P. Axel is handled, trained, humiliated, abused, and loved by Master Kevin Chaulk of Vancouver and Sir Kevin Mischka of Washington, D.C. He lives with his husband of 15 years in Richmond, Virginia. Find him on Facebook and his blog.

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Episode 36 – Nightcat

Ok, we are just going to have to start out by saying this was a little bit of a wild one for our shows. We were all over the place and covered a lot of stuff, and had a great time doing it! We talk with our friend Nightcat who was also featured on mic in Episode 16 about furries. There were so many truly funny moments in the show that I have been waiting to put this out there for a while, and now is the perfect time!

Show Notes

 Discussion Topics

  • The first talk of the Popper Incident referenced in the post Whoops… Was All I Heard
  • Talking about poppers in general
  • “Peach Flavored Pussy Powder” You are just going to have to hear it to believe it
  • “I like the color 2”
  • Daddies’ X-mas presents
  • Sparky had to be bleeped this time.
  • The soon-to-be-infamous Fart Story!

About Our Guest

Nightcat has been in the furry fandom and in BDSM for over 15 years now. He enjoys kink and everything to do with it. He has lived in Seattle for over a decade and loves his family of Furs and Kinksters! Find him on TwitterRecon, and Fetlife.

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Episode 35 – Listener Letter

In this episode, we had a lot going on! First and foremost, we talked about a letter that was sent in to the show from listener BearPaul. We had actually written about the letter back in a post on the blog, How to Get Over Fear, but on the show we talked about it in a bit more depth than on the blog.

Additionally:

  • This was Brett’s first show, but he was tied up and gagged! (Why did we stop doing that??)
  • We talked about self image, feeling safe and facing fears
  • And also, stories about our trip to the Mid-Atlantic Leather contest!

You’ve got to check out this show!

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Episode 34 – Year In Chastity

Back when Dreadfire was still our roommate, a few months ago, his boyfriend from Chicago came to visit. Smarmaduke, or Aaron, might be best known for his blog (archived here) where he to chronicled being in chastity for an entire year! And after all that, he still wanted more… if you are a big fan of chastity, this one is the one for you.

We had a great time learning about Aaron, where he came from and started in kink, including his very first scene involving fisting!  And his adventures with getting on planes now that he is all locked up.

Sit back and enjoy getting to know our friend Aaron!

 

Show Notes

Discussion Topics

  • Experiences blogging his chastity for 1 year
  • What was it like starting in kink so young?
  • Coming out story
  • What is your preferred chastity device?
  • How do you clean it and yourself?
  • What was the reward for 1 year of chastity?
  • Will you do it again?

About Our Guestsmarmaduke full

Aaron otherwise known as Smarmaduke grew up in the midwest and now calls Chicago his home. After a very wholesome upbringing and religiously-tinged schooling he jumped in ass first to the scene and has never gone back. He broke into some community renown for his year of blogging under chastity… 365 days in a device. He lives with his boyfriend Dreadfire in Chicago. Find him on Twitter, Recon, and his archived blog A Year Under Lock and Key.

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Episode 33 – Phil’s Flank Steak

For this episode, which was the second one we ever recorded, we had on our friend Phil from Philadelphia, otherwise known as Rugbylthr! He was in town visiting family and we hadn’t seen him in a while, so what more perfect timing could we have in order to talk a friend into letting us ask all about his kinks!

We take the time with him to discuss what it is like to be a volunteer for Mid-Atlantic Leather weekend (MAL) and being a part of the leather club scene on the east coast. He also shares the hilarious story that involves Flank Steak. A LOT of flank steak!

This has been an episode that we have been looking forward to posting ever since we recorded it!

 

Show Notes

Discussion Topics

  • Family and having to have separate social media accounts – don’t have them
  • East coast leather club culture
  • Consider the work a local club needs to do to put on an event
  • Education endeavors
    • BDSM and You, Widener University – Chester PA
    • Kinky Carnival – for 7 years
    • Bazaar on Quince – leather street fair

About Our Guest

Phil is a thick rugby player, beer drinker, and leather guy from Philadelphia.  He loves to roughhouse and leads an active social life on the East coast. Phil is also currently the event coordinator for Bazaar on Quince which is Philadelphia’s first leather and fetish block party, every October. Find him on Facebook and Recon.

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Episode 32 – Daddies Talking Daddies

Back when we first started planning the NoSafeWord show we made the decision to work on creating the website, designing the logos and setting up our social media outlets while at the same time recording some episodes that were not for immediate release. We didn’t have the mechanism to push out the episodes at the time, but we also put these episodes in cold storage for two reasons.

One was we wanted to have a library of episodes for when we couldn’t record a show, knowing that the month of July for us means constant work travel. So while we are away from home we have several episodes ready to post automatically for us.

The second reason is that we wanted to get the practice in for the show, an opportunity for us to work out the kinks (see what I did there?). But it was also a chance for all of us on the show to work out a flow between the two of us that we wanted to present. This means that the episode you are about to hear it a little raw.

Of those shows we put in the can, this is the first one, so those of us here at NoSafeWord HQ, it was our first episode. At the time we thought the first one should be about something that we (Daddy Tony & Sparky) share together, the journey of being Daddies. It was interesting to talk about the perspective of being a new Daddy (Sparky) as well as someone who has identified as a Daddy so much that its his name (DFT).

In the coming weeks we will be sharing more of our canned episodes, and will be back to recording new episodes in August!

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Episode 31 – Center for Sex Positive Culture

In our last show before our summer break, we wanted to have a discussion the fabulous Allena from the Center for Sex Positive Culture! She was one of the judges for the Best In Show event held by Seattle Pups and Handlers, SEA-PAH where we met her, and several people said, “You’ve got to have Allena on the show!”

How right they were.

And it worked out that we got to have Daniel, aka VisibleRestraint, on the show. These two have been close friends for a long time and perfect on the air together.

We talked all about the CSPC, including some history and what happens there. A lot of really interesting stories. We thinks this is helpful for everyone, even if you don’t come to Seattle to visit the center, perhaps there is a similar resource in your area. Or maybe you need to start one!

 

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

About Our Guests

Daniel, otherwise known as VisibleRestraint, and Allena have been heavily involved with running the Center for Sex Positive Culture, a playspace in Seattle. Daniel also runs a monthly play party in that space, Cock Circus. Find Daniel on Twitter, Recon, and at his website.

 

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Episode 30 – NuckPup

We have been seeing and following the crazy world of NuckPup for a while now. This guy has a lot on his plate, with a devoted partner to a job that keeps him busy, local play, and now a puppy of his own as well. His partner is also his sub, though wasn’t necessarily always so, which is an interesting story itself. Then add to it that the puppy is moving in, the very weekend this episode airs, and you can see that Nuckpup and Nucksub are both about ready to have a big change in their life.

And given that we all know the puppy, pup Striker, who is one of the most adorable and nicest puppies we know, makes the story all the more interesting. We care about the puppy and glad he is finding a home life that he wants, so we celebrate this move for him.

This story has a little bit for everyone. Polyamory is certainly a part of it, as well as submission, puppy play and becoming a slave. Balancing a kink life, and a sub finding his inner Dom is also big here. But overall it is a profile on one kinkster out there that is attempting to live life to the fullest, and going for a life that may be a challenge but also very rewarding.

We also had a listener email that we thought was perfect for this show to address.

I think this one you are going to love!

 

Show Notes

In the News

About Our Guest

NuckPup (Nuck/Sir) is the Alpha Dawg, Sir, and Head of Household proudly growing a leather household on the Canadian Prairies. For Nuck, leather, fetish, and kink have been part of his sexuality for over a decade, first as a boy, a collared pup, and now as a Sir. Nuck has a boy, Ray, who has been with him as a full time boy since 2006. pup Striker recently just joined their household! Find him on Recon and at his blog House of Nuckpup.

Listener Email

DFT and Sparky,

I’m writing to thank you and to ask a question. I was recently turned on to the show by a friend, and the timing was perfect since I needed a new podcast to listen to. I drive 8-10 hours a night for work and catching up on old shows has made for very entertaining shifts over the last week.

The podcast is exactly the kind of thing I’d been looking for for a while and exactly what I’d been needing. As someone with a keen interest in kink but not much experience I’ve been looking for a way to learn more. The thought of the organized community has always been mildly intimidating, and you guys have done a lot to break down that assumption even just in the week I’ve been listening, which I appreciate. It’s especially helpful since I’m planning a move to Seattle this fall, and it’s nice to hear that I should be able to find my way into the community if I’m willing to reach out and look for opportunities.

The question I have is about how to make that transition. Often times on the show you guys go back and forth about finding new boys to play with or help learn, and I was curious how you’d advise someone interested in the other side of things to go about learning more. I think I have the beginnings of a good headspace as a Daddy and a top that I’d like to develop further and I want to build some physical skills to match as best I can. I’m looking forward to being able to explore more in a larger city after I move, but how do I go about learning to be a good Daddy or pup handler or rope top? It doesn’t feel like it’s as built into the system as a Daddy mentoring his boy.

I’m really enjoying the show, and I just finished the two-parter with Daddy Jeff, which has probably been the best episode yet for me when it comes to learning more about the community. Keep up the good work, and I’d appreciate any advise you to wizened Daddies can provide.

-James, @StudyChemistry

PS- Brett on the mic in the Daddy Jeff episode was a definite bonus; I think he’s got to have one of the sexiest voices I’ve heard in a long while!

 

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Episode 29 – Tyesha and Hobbit, Part 2

After the great episode we had with Tyesha and Hobbit (see Part 1) we just had to continue on with the conversation in a part 2 episode. This one we decided to take up some topics regarding gender and gender identity.

The energy of this episode was amazing for both of us, having both a fun discussion but also really getting into some interesting discussions. We are very happy to have both of these awesome guests on the show!

 

Show Notes

Discussion Topics

  • Best in Show event recap
  • Discussions about Gender Identity
  • Gender Pronouns – She, He, Ze
  • “Tranny Bonus Hole”
  • Why is it ok to be irreverent and offensive

About Our Guests

Tyesha and Hobbit are two lovely ladies that lead open sexual lives. Hobbit is active in the Seattle Women of Leather and married a gay leather man (for the benefits). Tyesha is originally from Texas and writes for Leatherati. Find Tyesha on Twitter and Facebook.

 

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Episode 28 – Tyesha and Hobbit, Part 1

We met up with Tyesha and Hobbit during the rehearsals of the recent Best in Show event put on by SEA-PAH. We had such a great time getting to know them that night that we had decided that they needed to be on the show! This was a wild time, where we cover a bit about who Hobbit and Tyesha are, and where they came from. We also chat about queer issues, titles, hoo-has, alpacas, and a variety of play.

We also spend some time talking about Mama Sandy Reinhardt, and the renowned Mama’s Family. You can find out more about her at mamasfamily.org. Hopefully we can get her on the show soon!

You are just going to have to hear this one to believe it!

Show Notes

In the News

About Our Guests

Tyesha and Hobbit are two lovely ladies that lead open sexual lives. Hobbit is active in the Seattle Women of Leather and married a gay leather man (for the benefits). Tyesha is originally from Texas and writes for Leatherati. Find Tyesha on Twitter and Facebook.

 

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Episode 27 – Spanking

A listener sent in a letter regarding some questions about spanking (see below) that inspired us to talk about spanking for a few minutes. We invited on Boy Trav to talk about his experiences. Like many episodes, it really felt like there was so much more we could talk about, but we still cover quite a bit.

If you have any questions about spanking, want to share your own stories or comment on anything we said, be sure to send in a mail to the show!

Show Notes

In the News

Listener Letter

I came across an interesting article which claimed correlations between childhood spanking and sadomasochism. Here’s the link; the area in mention is under the section “Spanking and psychosexual development”. Can’t speak for everyone, but I wasn’t spanked as a child, yet I love to be beat like a SOB. Was wondering if you had an opinion about this article. http://nospank.net/sexdngrs.htm. Thanks, Jeff.

P.S. I love the show!! So grateful for all your informative, humorous info on all things kink. Keep it up!!    =))

About Our Guest

Boy Trav recently relocated to the Seattle area from Maine. Since he was a teenager, he has been into ABDL, spanking, and kink. He is excited to live in the Seattle area where he has many more opportunities to explore his sexuality as well as make more friends that understand his kinks. Find him on Twitter and Recon.

 

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