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Episode 214 – Cock Holster

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In the age of Trump, it’s a great time to re-examine the idea of political correctness in the scope of all the crazy news lately.

 Show Notes

  • What Now? Stephen Colbert, long time champion of gay rights, is raked over the coals for a crude joke. Is “PC culture” starting to chase its own tail? Also: Conservatives erupt in faux outrage over gay rights to try to weaken their progressive opponent. Here’s Colbert’s joke in context. #notfirecolbert
  • In the News
    • According to a “study,” just thinking about sex makes you want to have it more! Amazing!
    • Man will serve at least 30 years in prison after beating to death a man who responded to an online ad for sex.
    • What leads people to kink? Are we born with our twisted desires? Thought for the nerds: Are kinksters a Protected Class under the Civil Rights Act of 1964? Lets check back in 10 years.
    • Dolphins have kinky sex. And scientists are paid to watch. Hawt!
    • The drunker a straight guy is, the more likely he’ll find a guy hot.

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Episode 213 – Savage on Consent

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Dan Savage returns to the podcast as a guest, and we talk about consent.

 Show Notes

  • What Now? Dan presents it this week, and mentions three organizations that really could use our donations: ACLU, Planned Parenthood, and the International Refugee Assistance Project.
  • In the News: Sadly, stealthing is the newest, dangerous sex trend…for straight people.
  • We receive a letter asking for advice from Dan about a violation of consent from a prominent member of their local kink community.
  • The discussion moves into consent in general.
    • Having “the talk” before going in. A too-long talk can make the scene less passionate.
    • How you give “the talk.” It can be given in a reassuring, positive, and inclusive way.
    • Practice makes perfect…with the same person. You will read each other more readily without having to vocalize things, and trust between the two grows with each new experience with each other.
    • Consent given during a sexual experience that was previously out-of-bounds…not to be taken lightly.
    • Straight folks new to kink may be at a slight disadvantage compared to the gay male community…since gay men tend to first ask “what are you into?” since there is not one activity assumed to be part of gay sex.
    • Sometimes, consent given even well-before a scene could still be a negative time, but the consolation prize is that the person who gave the consent learned what they did not like.
    • Finally, if you are on the extreme side of kink activities, maybe an e-mail or text exchange stating what is consented to is a good idea.

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About Our Guest

Dan Savage is a sex advice columnist, activist, author, and podcaster from Seattle. Listen to his podcast The Savage Lovecast and read his writing on The Stranger at The Savage Love and SLOG.

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Ungagged Episode 22 – The Best Played Plans

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The best play scenes involve planning, but too much can ruin spontaneity. In this episode of Ungagged, the puppies talk about how that balance can be achieved without thinking you are in a business meeting while you play.

Show Notes

  • In the News
  • Making Play Scenes Hot but Not Scripted
    • Even if it seems overkill, making a full itinerary can still be very helpful, especially for newer subs.
    • Scenes involving VR can be especially fun, but it really involves a lot of planning and setup since you really do not want to fiddle with it during the scene.
    • Having a good electro-stim scene also involves a lot of planning….namely seeing what the limits are for each participant beforehand to avoid boredom or too much pain.
    • Each participant also should plan ahead for what their bodies will be doing during the scene.
      • If you will be bottoming, then you want to be sure you are clean down there.
      • If you will be in a particular position for any length of time, then you should be sure that your body and your muscles are fit enough to stay in that position.
    • The Golden Rule does not always apply: The dom may want to put their assumptions away on what will feel good to the sub and ask a lot of questions to the sub on what feels good and what does not.
    • The Boy Scout Rule: Be prepared! Everything will not work during a scene, so have some alternatives prepared to substitute in just in case something breaks or something is not feeling good to a participant.
    • Home Field Advantage: Planning and executing a scene goes a lot easier when you are familiar with the space you are playing in. The dom in a scene playing at home will be better prepared for the unexpected since they know where everything is.
    • If you are planning a scene in a place that is not the home of a participant, then pack well! Have everything you need in your “bag of tricks” and know where everything is in your bag for quick access.

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Episode 210 – Ghostly Reject

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When we are out there in the world of kink we run into people that are not going to be into us. Or people who are into us that we are not into. And then we have a choice.

Do we ignore them? Do they ignore us? Do we just ghost away and pretend it never happened?

Or are we honest with them and say we just aren’t into them? Do we want someone to be honest with us when they are not into us?

Of course there is no one answer and it really depends on the situation, but it happens so much we need to talk about it! Come take a listen.

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Episode 209 – All The News

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Today we dedicate the show to a wide variety of news articles and listener feedback!

Show Notes

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Episode 207 – Lawd Have MIR-cy

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Our guest on the show is Preston ‘Wexx’ So, Mr. International Rubber 2017.

Show Notes

  • In the News: A politician running for Arizona governor is actually honest…about his sex life.
  • Preston vs Bill O’Reilly:
  • MIR – Preston talks about the night he assumed his title…and a few of the more interesting parts of the contest…and it involved penetration.
  • First Asian international title-holder. Preston talks about race and kink and their interactions.
  • Unfortunately, Trump’s election reverberations even affect major kink events. Preston tells us about a fellow attendee of a major leather event who had pushed him out of an elevator and invoked Trump’s election for the reason why.
  • Preston speaks of those who are in the Asian community and their views of kink. In comparison, he talks about Margaret Cho and how even she is looked upon negatively in the Korean community due to her open sexuality.
  • Boston Pride and Preston: Preston gets to share his kink, while he is openly gay, with his co-workers.
  • Race itself being fetishized. Preston talks about his experiences of that happening…and how it seems to be a uniquely American thing.
  • Rubberize the World! Preston wants to expose the world to rubber and share the love of rubber with countries around the world…and to promote enthusiasts everywhere to be open about their love of rubber.

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About our Guest

*Preston “wexx” So* is Mr. International Rubber 20 (2017) and Mr. New
England Rubber 2016. The first international fetish titleholder of Asian
heritage, he is honored to bring the MIR title back to New England and
the New England Rubber Men. Previously, Preston was the resident
materials expert at Harvard College Munch, the BDSM student organization
at his alma mater, where he educated other members about leather,
rubber, spandex, and similar fetishes at a time when the group was
vilified by Bill O’Reilly on Fox News as a university-funded “sex club.”

Proud to practice his passion by wearing latex out regularly, Preston
enjoys mentoring new rubberists regardless of their gender or sexuality,
especially through latex fetishism workshops at DV8/Purple Passion and
Cleveland Leather Annual Weekend (CLAW). As an international
titleholder, he has appeared on Vice.com and Watt’s the Safeword to
promote and foster latex fetishism. Preston’s mission as Mr.
International Rubber 20 is to rubberize the world — to bring the latex
fetish to places further afield and especially to unawakened rubberists.

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Ungagged Episode 21 – You Wanna Be A Star, Don’cha?

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Have you ever thought of doing porn, or what it might be like? We share some of our limited experiences and much more we have learned from friends and others in the community around us to help you if you have considered acting in or producing porn.

Show Notes

  • In the News
  • So, you want to be a porn star?
    • What is porn?
    • Creating porn is work and not always fun
    • Mikey had a little experience with filming for kink.com
    • Consider the kind of porn that would be the best fit for you personally, don’t do it just for fame.
    • Be ready to promote your own stuff if you want it to be noticed.
    • Care about the quality
    • Research the software you’ll need for editing
    • What will be your porn identity? Amateur vs. Professional?

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Episode 206 – Newfoundcock

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We are talking with one of our listeners, MaskdCat, about the challenges organizing events for kink groups.

Show Notes

    • Douche Pickle of the Week: Caitlyn Jenner…and this:
  • Our guest, MaskdCat, talks about spandex, rubber, and how he even gets into different headspaces with the different materials.
  • Professional wrestling: a gateway drug to kink?
  • Talking about Toronto and the scene there, notably TORN – Toronto Ontario Rubbermen Network
  • How can organizations manage fundraising without being seen as asking folks too often for money? Sparky makes the point that clearly communicating the reason why funds are being raised is crucial.
  • Organizational drama: What are the issues that affect all organizations?
    • Some give their time too freely and others don’t at all.
    • Knowing the motivations of different members can be helpful, but it’s not a question to ask in a public meeting setting
    • To avoid the risk of burnout, Sparky talks about the importance of clearly-written by-laws that lay out the responsibilities of each officer of the organization as well as clearly stating the purpose of the group.
    • Working smarter and not harder: Invest time in reducing repetitive tasks.

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About our Guest

MaskdCat is a luchador kitty with fetishes for spandex, rubber, and many other types of hoods and gear. It all started with a wrestling mask at a young age, and things escalated from there.

Currently residing in the Toronto area, he is also one of the organizers for the Toronto Rubbermen, a social group who promote an inclusive space for rubbermen to socialize and celebrate life in rubber.

He can be found on Twitter under the @MaskdCat handle, and he also has a tumblr with plenty of gear smut at maskdcat.tumblr.com

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Episode 205 – Totally Masc 4 Masc, Bro

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We are talking with our friend Debit (first debuted on the show in Episode 51 – Covering Recovery and has been back many more times) about masculinity and identity issues within the kink world.

Show Notes

  • Douche Pickle of the Week: Women Trump Supporters Close Their Accounts At Nordstrom For Dumping Ivanka
  • Sparky is now on the path to join the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence
    • DFT and Debit share their journeys as Sisters themselves
    • There is growing acceptance of fem, drag, and trans people in the leather community
  • The group discusses masculinity and those that broadcast that they are only looking for “masc”
  • Publicly declaring who you aren’t “into” is negative energy that stigmatizes people
  • Sparky played with a whiny lispy fem-bot, and he used to be called Chanté
  • Cologne is not a good idea if you don’t know your partner likes it
  • We respect all gender-identities and misgendered colloquialisms are not the same as disrespecting trans men and women
  • DFT wants to do a gender mind fuck scene
  • The sisters are becoming more interwoven in the kink community since they share missions and members

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Ungagged Episode 20 – Double Male-Bag

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Now that we’ve hit 20 episodes of the Ungagged podcast, its time for another dip into the mailbag (last time was Episode 10!). Before we do that, we run down some very important stories of the day.

Show Notes

  • In the News
    • Fascist Furries find themselves unwelcome in polite fur-ciety.
    • Every woman needs a healing crystal dildo by Chakrubs for the ultimate in luxury stone age masturbation.
    • Finally, the world’s prayers have been answered. We’ll now all have the same set of unintelligible toilet iconography to try to understand while sitting on the shitter.
    • Dude, bro! Come check out my SCUBA bong! What could go wrong?
  • Listener Letters
    • A listener from the wilds of Western Washington thanks us for helping them feel more a part of the community even in relative isolation
    • Next, we answer some questions about J-Lube recipes. Add Methylcellulose for a thicker viscosity. Use salt for easier cleanup. Check out Drew’s recipe of Lion Cream Lube for more.
    • A listener in a dark place asks for advice with a newly polyamorous relationship that has not turned out as they hoped.
    • Frederik, a.k.a. ToyTorture, writes us about some further information about E-stim safety.
    • PiercedLeather asks the pups about how to achieve sub headspace.
    • A UPah pup writes us to share his connection with the show
    • The pups give advice to a listener with a really tight hole that needs some stretching help.
    • A listener loves the affirmation of knowing their not alone in their perversions, we love them too!

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This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Frisky Rubber Pup Hood.

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Episode 204 – The Postman Cometh

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Time to open up the ole (e)mail bag! Sparky and Daddy Tony read listener messages and discuss everything from leaving quickly after sex to pansexuality.

Show Notes

  • Now What? Yes, Trump fatigue has set in a bit. Fight that feeling by supporting the organizations that support us. This week, we feature Planned Parenthood.It isn’t just for women! Donate or see how you can take action in support of Planned Parenthood.
  • Leaving for Las Vegas (and other places.) Kink.com is leaving San Francisco.
  • Half-Night Stands: Maybe the rest of the world is finally catching up with gay men.
  • Older kinksters are (still) awesome. Sparky and Daddy Tony read a listener message thanking us for Episode 161 – Into Older? It Depends and talk about good times with older gentlemen in younger days.
  • Barebacking love from a latex allergy? Our second listener message wonders if they knew about their latex allergy sooner and started using polyurethane condoms, then maybe they would not have been so much into barebacking.
  • Positive Depictions of Kink in Film. A British listener lets us know that one example of a kink-positive scene in a film would be a Spanish film called Bear Cub.
  • Our Listeners…Their Cocks. We love appreciative listeners…and their dick pics.
  • A Non-Binary Queer Male Reaches Out. This listener thanks us for Episode
    57 – Leland
    and laments the lack of resources for those of pansexual orientation online and looks for a sense of community.

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Episode 203 – Harshing My Buzz

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Sex, drugs, and beating balls. On this episode we have a discussion with Ungagged hosts Drew and Mikey about drugs, sex and kink. We go down a list of the most popular drugs and talk about our experiences of each. Some of them are awesome and totally safe to use in a controlled situation, others you had best steer clear!

Show Notes

  • Introducing Now What? our new recurring segment for the show. We decided in this new political era to take proactive action to protect our rights.
  • Sparky runs down a list of Senators to target, support, and watch to get ready for the next midterm election in 2018.
  • Our topic is drug use in kink play and sex. We are exploring this topic to be open beyond the stigma and share our own experiences from the past.
  • Pot has so many code words! As it is legalized, it is becoming a lot more common as a part of sex the way that alcohol has been. “I have introduced plenty of people to pot for the first time!” “Tell me more about it, Bill Cosby?”
  • Heroin or opium has strong effects and is very addictive. It’s dangerous to use in risky sexual situations and the effects are so strong that we would never suggest or consider it for sexual play (or for any other use).
  • “I love me some cocaine, if there was some cocaine here right now I would snort it!” We take a trip back to the 80’s and talk about why coke isn’t terrible in general. However it’s not completely compatible with sex or kink play for everyone. It can kill your boner.
  • Methamphetamine have similar effects to cocaine, but much more addictive. It can have devastating effects with long-term use. We don’t recommend trying it and won’t play with others using it.
  • Party drugs like MDMA and Ecstasy makes everything in the world feel sexy, except maybe sex itself. Some say it makes for the best sex they ever had. There’s an alphabet soup of different cocktails and combos of drugs that some think have the best feeling, but generally you’ll have to pay for the pleasure on the other end. “She took her shirt off… and I remember playing with her boobs and having the best time!” 
  • K. This special drug was developed to knock out horses. You can fall into a K hole and just be happy existing. It probably will make you boring, which isn’t very sexy. Similar drugs are PCP and Salvia. They get you disoriented and you will make bad choices.
  • Hallucinogens make every boring situation seem exciting thanks to the phantom dicks popping out of every surface. Some really love sex with them, although it’s not compatible with most kink play. “That can be the worst 20 minutes of your life trying to eat a bag of mushrooms.” 
  • Know your environment and don’t over-do it. Do your research and talk to a friend. Keep this number and call for help if it is not an emergency: U.S. Poison Control Hotline 1-800-222-1222. Visit Drugslab on YouTube to see some scientifically presented visuals of the effects of different drugs.

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This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Bluetooth Remote Control Butt Plug.

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Episode 202 – Pop Goes the Kinkster

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A few months ago the local news weekly, The Stranger, sent a reporter over to our show to do a story about us and other kinky online educational resources from the Seattle area, and thus was the first time we met Matt. He is a sweet guy that did a great write up about our show, so we have invited him back to have a talk with us about how kink culture and pop culture sometimes interact (as sometimes doesn’t). Always fun to hear from matt!

Show Notes

  • A listener letter asking about bar etiquette. The guys talk about extending yourself to others at the bar…verbally that is! More information about bar etiquette can be found in a past episode of the pup’s podcast – Ungagged 4: The Devil is in the Details.
  • Our guest Matt Baume talks about his relationship to the kink community as a journalist who is an advocate of kink from outside the kink community.
  • How does kink and pop culture link up? We talk about different examples in gaming (Ironbull), in movies (Secretary), and in music (Madonna…duh!)

About Our Guest

Matt Baume makes his third visit to the NoSafeWord podcast! Matt is a Seattle-based writer, storyteller, and video maker whose work focuses on LGBT issues, nerds, and anything that is strange and wonderful.

Matt hosts the podcast The Sewers of Paris, where gay men share stories about the entertainment that changed their lives. He is the author of the book Defining Marriage and hosts a podcast of the same name where he and his partner joke and chat about queer issues.

He is currently working on a project called Playing With Pride, featuring personal stories about what happens when queer culture and game culture collide. You can get in touch @mattbaume on Twitter, and check out his YouTube channel for weekly videos about LGBT issues.

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This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Champion Singlet

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Ungagged Episode 19 – A Different Kind of Sparky

About This Episode

We’re talking this week about electro play! We’re also shaking off the dust of the holidays and catching up on the news.

  • Catching up in the new year
  • What’s in the news:
  • We talk all about electro play in depth!
    • Methods of electro play
    • There are a number of different systems out there available and we discuss a few
    • Dangers and pitfalls to avoid
    • Gel and other accessories
    • Help for beginners
    • Know electricity basics!
    • Electro is individualistic – it takes time to get the right stim for each person, so do it much more than once
    • 3-2-1…Contact! Connectivity is extremely important
    • Send us your comments and letters!

 

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