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Episode 248 – Knot Enough

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We’re talking today about how to design and build a play scene as well as avoid some pitfalls that could end your scene before it reaches its climax!

 Show Notes

  • What Now?
    • Hold on to your butts! The chaos and insanity is impossible to keep up with.
  • In the News
    • Imagine the horror of an innocent Ren-faire nerd who might happen into the unseemly den of a Re-sex faire! These controversies are veiled attacks at kink and fetishism.
    • Adam Rippon makes a connection with Elsa-drag hero.
  • Our Topic – Designing a Play Scene
    • Locks should be in service of the headspace of the sub… newbies could be taken out of their comfort zone, but others it could be important
    • Sensory deprivation. Consider the order you want to eliminate various senses. Many will start with a hood and add a blindfold and then a gag
    • Aftercare and the way to back out of a scene should always be on your mind. Safety shears are important when using rope or other bindings
    • You don’t need a dungeon or play room for kinky play. Be creative and tie them up to anything sturdy
    • If you can’t or don’t know how to tie up your partner, look for a buddy that can help!
    • Have your sub tie themselves up in some manner to be ready for your arrival. BE CAREFUL about self bondage!

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Ungagged Episode 30 – Hot Under the Collar

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Today the boys talk all about collars, their meaning and symbolism, the good and the bad!

Show Notes

  • Paws for the News
  • All About Collars
    • Why do pups gravitate to collars?
    • Collars often represent a deep relationship dynamic
    • Wearing a collar full time is a constant connection back to your Handler/Sir
    • With great collar comes great responsibility!
    • Or, just collar yourself and you can go out and experience being a part of the community and learn what you like without a commitment.

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Episode 247 – Gender Schmender

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Today’s very special guest is Sister PussyWillow and she will discuss transgender and how they interact with the different kink communities.

 Show Notes

  • Our Guest Today – Sister PussyWillow
    • Transgender and the general kink community. Sister will give us some insight.
    • Pronouns. Always important.
    • With our guest, all three of us are Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, so they all talk about gender and being a Sister.
    • Talking of BDSM and Trans, what can the “typical” leather guy do to make Trans people more welcome?
    • The immortal line between a personal preference and being phobic of a community.
      • Where does it lie between a gay cisgendered male who is not attracted to female genitalia, and a trans man who has female genitalia?
      • Must a gay cisgendered male accept every invitation to sex with a trans man out of fear of being called transphobic?
      • Are personal preferences allowed?
    • Let’s go: RuPaul and the banning of trans women from RuPaul’s Drag Race (which Ru ended up rescinding the ban and apologizes.)
      • Will Ru recover from this, or is this time a step too far?
      • If things do go negative, does Ru still need to suffer a full shunning, or maybe just less attention?
      • What about drag and its general prohibition to cisgendered females (while trans men doing female drag does not seem to be a problem?)
    • The unfortunately-common question to trans males who do female drag: Why did you transition to male if you like to wear dresses?

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Episode 246 – Into the Weeds

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Today’s show welcomes Pup Skuff to the show on a Friday night!

 Show Notes

  • What Now?
  • Our Guest Today – Pup Skuff
    • He talks about his show
    • He covers the many benefits of marijuana
    • He started consuming it much later in life than many others
    • Do marijuana and kink go together? There are many who think kink should be pot-free.
    • Daddy Tony talks about his love of the combination
    • …and the conversation drfts off to pizza….and we return.
    • Differences in pot strains
      • Indica…”in the couch.” They tend to be more sedating
        Sativa: A more creative, more active high
    • Kink does have responsibilities…so over-indulging on pot is not a good idea.
    • A bong newly named “The Grammy Award-winning Dolly Parton” leads to a bit of unexpected Dolly love.
    • Still, pot is a mild drug…and can go well with kink
    • Skuff has a new podcast starting up. It soon will be up at

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Episode 245 -Swinging Dead Squirrels

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Daddy Tony is back and we take this time to read a listener’s letter.

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Episode 243 – News and jizz

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Today’s show opens up to our listeners and the messages they have sent us.

 Show Notes

  • What Now?
    • Blech. *sigh*
  • In the News
  • Listener Letters
    • One of our listeners asks if it is acceptable to the kink community to have experience being a sub to be a Sir?
      • It is “acceptable” as anything involving consenting adults is “acceptable.”
      • Not everyone may be accepting of you personally, of course.
      • Still, you can do your research online if experience hasn’t taught you. You won’t be perfect of course.
      • Being a Dom requires responsibility…or at least being a good Dom does.
      • Still, a newbie Dom should still go to kink events out-of-town and seek out advice from other Doms with more experience.
    • Another listener questions the worthiness of health care providing anti-viral medication who are bug chasers.
      • We are all worthy, even if some of us have faults.
      • Should smoking, overeating, and other factors also make us “unworthy” of health care?
      • Anti-viral medications are expensive…up to $4,000/month. Still, at least in the US, the drug manufacturer provides financial assistance for most who cannot afford it, both directly from them and through state-level programs that the manufacturer donates to.
      • We in the gay community already experience marginalization. We need to try very hard not to marginalize others, especially aimed at our own community.

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Ungagged Episode 29 – The Doghouse

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After game time with Sparky and Daddy Tony, the puppers talk about building your own playspace.

Show Notes

  • Game Time with Sparky and Daddy Tony
    • A game of “define the phobia.” Given a phobia term, describe what it means.
  • Building out your space
    • Dual-use spaces
      • Playroom and (any other room)
      • Lots of spaces like an office, living room, etc. could be a playroom
    • A playspace also is about what is seen before you get to the playspace…so look at your place as a whole.
    • A playspace can look like anything. There are no rules…make it look like what makes you most comfortable and not anyone else.
    • Music is also very important during a scene in a playroom
      • Music gets you away from reality
      • Put on what you want!
    • Furniture for everyday use can also be dual-purpose
      • Look for solidly-built furniture. IKEA will not work and is way too cheaply-built.
      • Hide places that can be used as anchor points
    • The sense of smell – how does your room smell?
      • Find a type of incense or a spray deodorizer that you love, and ONLY use it in that room.
      • Your playroom will smell like your playroom and get you in the mood just by the smell of your playroom.
    • Lighting your playspace
      • LED light strips. You don’t have to get the Philips Hue brand. There are other choices that even are compatible with Hue.
      • Check out Amazon. They have many choices of course.

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Episode 241 – Chasing Bugs

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Today’s show discusses the kink of bug chasing. Is it the taboo of taboo sex?

 Show Notes

  • What Now?
    • Trump, racism, Mike Pence’s preferences, etc.
  • In the News
  • Bug Chasing
    • This article introduces bug chasing, or the kink of an HIV-negative person who desires to acquire HIV. Do HIV exposure laws add to the kink?
    • HIV exposure laws, many of them passed over 30 years ago, need reform. California has recently lowered this crime from a felony to a misdemeanor.
    • How would a bug chaser’s kink change after they become HIV-positive?
    • Does this fetishization of HIV-positive people come from a place of stigmatizing HIV-positive people?
    • Some bug chasers talk about their fetish being about risky, taboo sex that is no different than other sorts of taboo sex.
    • Some others view bug chasing is a form of mental illness or a fetish that should never be encouraged.
    • The guys don’t necessary view it in either extreme. It is more of struggle for them to understand the kink.
    • Definitely there is much more to talk about, and the guys may address it again in a future show.

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Episode 240 – Dress Code: Optional

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The decline of the gay leather bar… it’s almost a trope now. But, what is really going on in leather bars nowadays? And why are so many in decline or already closed? We share some of our experiences with our local bars and other bars we’ve been to in the past.

 Show Notes

  • What Now?
    • Our stable genius seems to be frightened by Fire and Fury by Michael Wolff
  • In the News
    • Good old Washington state allows a new “X gender” option along with male and female.
    • Be careful on gay apps such as Grindr. Case in point.
    • Those drugs in my butt? Not mine.
    • Even straight blogs are starting to share useful BDSM tips.
    • Non-stop prostate orgasms occur for man after a prostate infection.
    • A (slightly impaired) listener imparts his appreciation to the guys for being a positive force for kink.
  • About Leather Bars
    • They have definitely changed over the years.
    • Ah, the backrooms, the mazes, and those other sexy areas…are definitely more rare nowadays.
    • Social apps for gay men may have led to the downturn of the backroom
    • Bars today also tend to appeal to different demographics for better business, so men-only gay bars are few and far between.
    • Have gay bars being more inclusive hurt our experiences there?
    • Hey listeners…what do you think? We have gained a lot with more acceptance, but have we lost something? E-mail us or get on our Telegram group and let us talk about it.

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Episode 239 – History of Latex Fetishism

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Today we’re talking with a young enthusiastic rubber fetishist who created a popular YouTube video about the history of the fetish. We also talk about how it’s changed over the generations and penetrated modern pop culture.

 Show Notes

  • What Now?
    • Happy New Year? Time for a fresh start and new energy!
  • In the News
    • The HIV/AIDS Council has imploded and it’s uncertain when or if it will be restored. This handicaps the federal government’s ability to continue to reduce new infections and fight the epidemic in the face of a population that is growing more complacent.
    • Kink Yoga is a new way to combine sex with the benefits of Yoga to the body and mind.
  • Our Guest Today – Whiteout
    • Whiteout is a rubber fetishist who recently made a popular YouTube video, The History of Latex Fetishism
    • The raincoat made by Charles Mackintosh was the first widespread rubber clothing that kicked off further development and iterations of new kinds of clothing through the next century. With the internet, it’s become more accessible today than ever.
    • We were introduced to Whiteout by our friend Kinkidiver, previously on Episode 94 – The Last Half Mile and 180 – Like a Fine Wine…, who has been active in the rubber community for many years.
    • The rubber community doesn’t have a resource to maintain the history of the community like the Leather Archives and Museum. The Canadian Lesbian + Gay Archives maintains some resources.
    • Rubber is becoming more mainstream in popular and straight culture. Price is dropping and accessibility is improving, but knowledge about care and quality needs to be more widespread.

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Episode 238 – Whatever, Mistress!

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Today’s show features Portland’s very own Ginger Vixen Mistress Pixie Fyre (on previously in Episode 200 We are 200Episode 165 Mistress Fyre and Episode 190 Cum Unity).

 Show Notes

  • What Now?
  • In the News
  • Our Guest Today – Mistress Pixie Fyre
    • Mistress Pixie talks about the role of protocol in her personal life, both sexual and non-sexual.
    • The best kind of service between a Dom and the sub is a two-way street
      • For example, the Dom can show a special kind of acknowledgement to a sub’s service as part of the protocol.
    • How is protocol established and effectively remembered?
      • Communication
      • Writing down those protocols agreed upon
      • Do it every time, every day
      • Checking back in with each other if a protocol is still beneficial to both parties
    • Protocol can occasionally lapse.
      • Understanding toward the other person is so important
      • If their life is super-busy or stressful, talk to them about it
      • Putting aside some protocols as a break may be necessary
    • The link between the Dom and the sub through protocol can be a great comfort in times of crisis. Mistress Pixie relates her battle with cancer this year and talks about how meaningful that is in times of crisis.
    • Service is not always fun for both sides of the power equation. Mistress Pixie talks about those kind of services, but an emphasis should be placed on services that are beneficial to the household or to the sub themselves.
    • Hey subs, you can give suggestions to your Dom (politely requested of course!) Offer your ideas to Them on ways to serve that will be fun for both of you.

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Episode 237 – Puppers On Poppers

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This week we discuss what’s in the news and answer a couple letters from our listeners. In the spirit of #MeToo, we condemn the assholes the assault others for their own pleasure and power.

 Show Notes

  • In the News
  • Our guest today is Sparky’s pup, That Drew Lion, a.k.a. Brutus, the co-host of Ungagged.
  • The main topic: Poppers and Max Impact
    • Poppers:
      • Poppers is really videotape player head cleaner.
      • The most common chemical considered poppers is isobutyl nitrate, but there are many other chemicals in the nitrates that are also called poppers. Amyl nitrate is banned in the US.
      • Why do people do poppers?
        • It is inhaled
        • Euphoric, horny feeling
        • It relaxes the muscles very effectively and quickly, promoting a head rush
      • Also relaxes muscles involved in sex, including the rectum, vagina, throat, and even the urethra.
      •  The bad side to poppers
        • Headaches
        • Out of control feeling
      • Because of the different chemical makeup, the brands of poppers effects vary.
      • Those with respiratory problems should use caution since it causes respiratory irritation.
      • Not many states ban poppers completely. The sale of poppers is banned in Canada.
  • Max Impact
    • It is a product that is not considered poppers, and it has a much stronger effect.
    • It is the chemical ethyl chloride.
    • Usually in a spray bottle
    • It is much more in the realm of anesthesia.
    • There have been many deaths caused by Max Impact
    • Those new to poppers should stay away.
  • Either product can be addictive, and those who are addicted to it are not very fun in bed.
  • Your erection could also be difficult to get or maintain without poppers.
  • Poppers also should never be used while on Viagra, since both lower blood pressure and could lead to dizziness, fainting, and even death.
  • Overall, like any drug, use with caution. As Brutus said, poppers should only be used to accent a scene, but if it becomes a center of the scene, then it could be problematic.

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Episode 235 – Harassment Addiction

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This week we discuss what’s in the news and answer a couple letters from our listeners. In the spirit of #MeToo, we condemn the assholes the assault others for their own pleasure and power.

 Show Notes

  • What Now?
    • Don’t fuck 14 year olds! Don’t touch people without consent!
  • In the News
  • A listener asks if it’s acceptable in the community to be a Sir if one hasn’t served already as an “apprentice” to another Sir.
  • Listener ToyTorture sends us a note and mentions “kink fatigue,” but does not send a dick pic.

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Ungagged Episode 27 – That Sweet OC

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This episode talks about how to create original online content.

Show Notes

  • In the News – Craigslist Missed Connections!
    • You only need to grab a hammer to be Thor
    • Seven foot tall unicorn really misses his honey in the black tutu
    • A skinny skeleton gets some smooth talk
    • Aquaman resists his new-look image
    • Straight male shows off for Chun Li
    • He had him at “no homo”
    • Mimes go all altruistic
    • A moment of love shared over pink thongs
    • Lets go back to the barn
  • How to Produce Online Content
    • What is your motivation for making content?
      • Just wanting to share your experiences?
      • Want to have fans?
      • Make money?
    • Just be advised that it is a lot of work to make good original content.
    • Different types of content to be made: review sites, educational sites, porn, advice on kink.
    • How will you deliver your content? Written content, podcast, or video can be delivered in many different ways. Make your own website with a hosting company or using services like YouTube?
    • Be careful with different services that you are not violating their terms of service, especially with adult content.
    • Your content will always benefit from being tastefully presented, so get advice on website design and even have an overall branding approach professionally done.
    • Sometimes you can team-up with others in presenting original content. If you have website creation abilities, you can always partner with others who is good at creating content or have the means to create content.
    • Making high-quality content does require high-quality equipment.
    • Good content creation also requires one to be able to do many things well…all at once.
    • Prepare yourself for the haters: You will get lots of criticism, some good, and a lot delivered in the rudest way possible.
    • Think also about legal issues. How will you organize yourself as a company? Will your content open you to legal issues…like adult content? Talk to a lawyer to get the best advice.
    • Be organized. Lots of things will be going on, and being organized is key, especially when you need to deliver content on a regular basis.
    • Look into content delivery platforms like WordPress and its seemingly infinite number of plugins that will let you add features to your website…like an online store.
    • Since you will now be using a megaphone, be aware that you can create unintended drama.

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