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Episode 185 – YesSafeWord

It’s opposite day!  Today the NoSafeWord crew discusses all things safeword related, from how we came up with the name of the show, what our favorites are, when to use them, and why they are important!

Show Notes

In the News

Topics

  • Safe Word doesn’t mean ‘go to town’
  • Not inherently good or bad – they just ‘are’
  • Daddy: Goal is to not need the safeword
  • Sparky: Uses communication as the main method
  • Why named the show ‘NoSafeWord’?
    • Get to the point where you don’t need to have one.
    • Enough education, enough knowledge, enough communication
    • Sometimes you can’t say the safeword…
  • Sometimes even in relationships – may need for new stuff…
  • Mikey is a tight ass.  Great butt.  Huuge.  I have the best butt, everyone says so.
  • May help for new people – feel more safe, secure.
  • Don’t want to disappoint top – may not even use it as unsure of what will happen
  • Communication early is important – and keeping communication going during is Sparky’s approach.
  • Some tops get very intense, safewords are very important in those types of scenes.
    • If Sparky was going to get whipped, he would definitely want a safeword.
      • Daddy won’t give him one if he does it.
  • Meeting a stranger?  Good time to have a safeword agreed upon.  Dialog and communication in new relationships is very important and will only make for a better experience for everyone involved :)
  • Every not a great idea?
    • Sparky: Safeword was requested, he specifically denied.  This is why: Sparky had to specifically draw everything out of him, wanted to try new things in scene and get immediate results from the sub.
    • Used as a ‘shield’ sometimes – I won’t every do anything without a safeword – make sure you aren’t crazy.
  • Keep in mind, a safe word is not magic – if a top wants to do harm, he can.
  • LPT: tie down the feet to make it harder for the sub to cum
  • Favorite safewords:
    • Rootabega – neighbor was getting things stuck up his butt, and had to guess the item
    • Green/Yellow/Red – standard, though green light doesn’t need to be said, could mean go harder though
  • Some tops – red light is the goal
  • Sparky: one safeword he used was ‘Take me to the fucking airport right now’
  • Electro isn’t for every top…
  • Idea behind safeword is something that is uncommon – don’t use common words
    • ‘Blood’
    • ‘Supercalifragilisticexpilallidocious’
    • ‘No’, ‘Stop’, Aaaaa’, etc.  No is not is safeword.
  • Safewords have a place – but do not replace communication, don’t think this is a shortcut for talking with a top on what you are into, what you can/can’t do, and what you are interested in and why.

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Fetters Strap Face Cage.

Mr. S Leather — Fetters Strap Face Cage

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Ungagged Episode 13 – Flipbook Families

Show Notes

Topics

  • General Kink Trivia Game
    • Damien versus Drew
  • Managing Poly Relationships
    • Why would you want to go poly
    • Creating new experiences
    • What are the challenges of a poly relationship
      • Communication
      • Roles & Labels
      • Moods
    • Monogomy and jealousy
    • Adding new people to the Polycule
    • Removing people from the Polycule

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Howler Muzzle Light Gray.

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Episode 184 – Listening to the Listeners

Daddy Tony and Sparky open up the mailbag this week to talk about your listener letters!  After busting a load to the dick pics sent in by our awesome listeners, Sparky and Daddy get around to answering your questions about everything from rubber gear, loud sex, and some awesome throwbacks to some earlier episodes!

Show Notes

In the News

Topic – Listener Letters!

  • Is there non-latex rubber gear?
  • CAN you be as loud as the hell you want when you’re making love?!
  • What does undetectable actually mean and does that mean unsafe sex is OK?
  • OMG, we’ve been discovered!!  It’s happening for us!!
  • Dealing with body changes and rocking your own energy! (and you owe us a dick pic, Trekboy008!)

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the The Handler Collar and Gag!.

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Episode 183 – Piss Play

The indomitable Pup Nitro joins us in the shower this week for an episode answering your questions on piss play. Get wet with us on this episode and prepare to guzzle down some knowledge!

Show Notes

Topics

About our Guest

Bryson “Pup Nitro” Hankinson
International Leatherboy 2011

In 2006, he moved to Atlanta where he met Sir Alan Penrod and began to discover his “Leather Heart”.  Nearly a year later he earned his collar and was given his pup name, “NITRO” (Needs Intense Torture to Reach Orgasm).  Nitro is currently the President of Panther L/L, and is a Co-Founder of the Hotlanta Rubber and Gear Club. He is the co-owner of Southeast Black and Blue, LLC, and co-producer of Atlanta Leather Pride. He has held the titles of Mr. Hotlanta Rubber 2008, Southeast Leatherboy 2011, and International Leatherboy 2011. Nitro teaches BDSM and Leather Lifestyle classes on a variety of topics and enjoys any play involving tight bondage, mummification, rubber/latex, electricity, cbt, and watersports. He also serves as a mentor to other boys, helping them find their voice within our beautifully diverse leather community.

Nitro has been with us a whole lot before, in Episode 138, Episode 130Episode 98, Episode 80Episode 62, and Episode 10.

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Daddy’s Belt!

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Episode 182 – Pride Match Game

One of the ways in which we carry our message, which is all about making sure the fun is in our kink, is to stop for a moment and do something out-of-the-box. Well today, we forego the normal kink topics and do a show featuring a game of matching (cause I guess we shouldn’t call it the other thing or get into trouble). We had a BBQ of friends and asked a few to jump on the show with us to play our game.

I think that you are going to find it was a damn good time!

Happy Pride Month, everyone. We love you!

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Rigid Collar & Cuffs.

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Ungagged Episode 12 – Old Guard vs. New – Our Journeys

The puppies today have decided to talk about their personal perspectives about the different between Old Guard and New Guard. Now I know, another Old Guard versus New Guard, that has been done! But not like this, because they really focus on their own journey and how they have to come to find their place in the spectrum of guard (trademark).

You are going to find this to be a really great episode with some fun personal stories!

Show Notes

Topics

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Scream Hood.

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Episode 180 – Like a Fine Wine…

Our good friend Kinkidiver is back and here to talk about how sometimes experience, knowledge, and history can be some of the sexiest features you’ll ever find in a guy, especially when it comes to BDSM!  Sparky, Daddy Tony, and Jeff tackle the topics of agism, what older gentlemen have to offer, and why being a hot young twink isn’t always everything!

Show Notes

In the News

Topics

  • Older guys do tend to have more experience and knowledge!
  • Many are experienced in mentoring – but some want to play too!
  • Body image and how to handle getting older
  • Experience-hunters
  • Dealing with energy levels and getting older

About our Guest

Kinkidiver has been happily tying guys up (and getting tied up himself) for many years. One of the NoSafeWord crew has known him for 18 years. He loves bondage, rubber, leather, and sports gear and is an all-around perv. Just our type!  You can find him as kinkidiver on Recon.  Kinkidiver was also on Episode 62.

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Vector Ultra-Padded Straightjacket.

Mr. S Leather — Vector Ultra-Padded Straitjacket

We’re really excited about our new Vector Ultra-Padded Straitjacket. After months of testing and design updates we’re ecstatic with the end result.

This piece comes with full body padding in the front and back. The padding also extends to the arms and hands. With this extra cushioning your joints are well covered so you can stay in this comfortably for a long time.

This new design has a more fitted body so you’re going to look amazing in it too. We’ve also made the cockstraps much more comfortable. From the back it fits like your favorite jock would! Velcro closure at the back allows you to hold the straitjacket in place as you cinch it on your boy.

We’ve included numerous D-rings along the sides so you’ve got a lot of great tie down points. Just like our Deluxe Straitjacket this comes with an arms down option that allows you to use it like a sleepsack. Six belts lets you get your boy in just the right position for this feature. These same belts allows you to lock his arms back along with the pinion strap.

Bondage meets sexy in this hot new piece. Made right in the heart of SF by our devious production team. Come see it at IML this weekend and see why this may be one of the best straitjackets out there!

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Episode 177 – Bday Puppies

Show Notes

In the News

Topics

  • Newly Weds – 2016 edition! I’m not even sure what a buddy bar is…
    • Brutus wants it noted that these were very difficult questions to answer!
    • Puppies continue to fail to understand the questions.
  • If you’d like to flash your junk, Maricolpa County is the place to be!
    • Sparky used to be on the yearbook editing Staff, for sure a cool guy.
  • Fisting – A hands-on demonstration!
  • Grindr – Don’t use pervy as a word on the profile. Code words for something you’re not expecting.
    • Michelle Obama invented Scruff. Thanks Obama!
    • Daddy’s English accent continues to amaze.

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Padded Hand Sling.

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Episode 174 – Guy Pierced

Have you ever thought about poking holes in your body? We talk with a guy who has 26 piercings (and he used to have more). So everything you wanted to know about having parts of your body pierced with shiny jewelry, you can learn about on this episode of the NoSafeWord Show.

Show Notes

In the News

Topics

  • Piercings!
  • Robbie walks us through all of the piercings in his body
  • Why do it?
  • Sensations change after getting pierced
  • How to go about getting pierced for the first time
  • Play piercings
  • Piercings in the penis

About Our Guests

Robbie is very proud to be Mr. Atlanta Eagle 2015 alongside his title family Khaz and Jackson. As a full member of Panther L/L, and the current Sergeant-At-Arms for the club he is very active with the local Atlanta Leather Community. In October 2015 Robbie went on to represent his community at American Brotherhood Weekend where he placed first runner-up for the title of American Leatherman.

Robbie not only works as a barback at the Atlanta Eagle, but is also a professional hair stylist by trade, and can make anyone look fabulous…. Well almost anyone.

Anyone that knows Robbie knows that he likes to stand out and is always himself. Flagging Leopard and Purple have always been favorites of his, and he is always looking for the next addition to his art collection.

If a movie or show involves zombies then he is going to be sitting front row, and you definitely want him on your crew when the zombie apocalypse hits.

Robbie is very proud to be Mr. Atlanta Eagle 2015 alongside his title family Khaz and Jackson. As a full member of Panther L/L, and the current Sergeant-At-Arms for the club he is very active with the local Atlanta Leather Community. In October 2015 Robbie went on to represent his community at American Brotherhood Weekend where he placed first runner-up for the title of American Leatherman.

Robbie not only works as a barback at the Atlanta Eagle, but is also a professional hair stylist by trade, and can make anyone look fabulous…. Well almost anyone.

Anyone that knows Robbie knows that he likes to stand out and is always himself. Flagging Leopard and Purple have always been favorites of his.

You can find Robbie on:

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Violet Wand Kit.

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Episode 173 – Watts in a Name

There are several other people around who have podcasts and video channels. And sometimes they get newspaper articles written about them. Or one podcast will talk about the others.

Like NoSafeWord. Talking about Watts the Safeword. Or Defining Marriage. Or The Sewers of Paris.

You got it! We’re talking with Pup Bolt and Pup Amp about their video channel. (Video podcast? Vidcast? Is there a name for a recurring video thingy on YouTube?)

And we also talk with Matt Baume, who wrote a lovely article about NoSafeWord, Watts the Safeword, and the Center for Sex Positive Culture in The Stranger. You should go read the article.

And remember, kids: Sound it out.

Show Notes

In the News

Topics

  • Listener letter: Reaction to Episode 171.
  • What’s the Watt?
  • History
  • Bolt and Amp are not dating!
  • Different types of relationships and
  • Dealing with notoriety in public
  • The pornographies and how that feeds the show
  • The intersection of the kink/porn/podcast life with muggle life
  • Ukeleles and condoms
  • How would your younger self think of you today?

About Our Guests

Matt Baume

Matt writes for The Stranger. He is a published author. Go out and read his book, Defining Marriage. (Click that link to find all of the different formats for the book — paperback, ebook, and audio book!) In addition, Matt does a Defining Marriage podcast. On top of all of that, he does another podcast called Sewers of Paris.

You can find Matt on his web site (www.mattbaume.com) or on Twitter: @MattBaume.

Pup Bolt

Pup Amp

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Tail Fuck.

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* See this video on YouTube if that reference is too obscure.

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Episode 172 – Live at Rubbout

Sorry for the delay to all our listeners but there were a few big changes to our systems that we needed to work through. Now that they are all there, we are back to our regularly scheduled programming. In fact, we will have a bonus episode this week on Thursday to make up for not having one for you last week!

Show Notes

Douchepickle of the Week

 

We recorded a show live at Rubbout in Vancouver! You are going to hear a lot of things happening in the background because… there was a lot going on! There was a gear swap going on right in front of us, there was vac cubes going, there were people mingling, there was drinking, there was puppies in a shower! CRAZY PANTS!

And in the middle of it all we got o meet the current Mr International Rubber, Jeffrey Gummibärchen! He is a great and funny guy that we had a great time learning about is interests in rubber, his relationships and his title year!

Topics

  • Getting started in rubber
  • Jeffrey’s start in gear
  • Balancing relationships
  • What he has been doing with his title year
  • What he has coming up
  • Advice to rubber newbies!

About Our Guest

 

Bio pending

 

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Latex Sleepsack!

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Ungagged Episode 09 – Explain the Gay Away

Sadly, we don’t live in a world where everyone is a kinkster. We can’t go about our everyday lives walking down the street in full rubber wearing a visible stainless steel chastity belt. (Excuse me while I adjust myself.)

Anyway, we must deal with non-kinksters, and sometimes we interact with them when we’re wearing gear or in a submissive or dominant head space. How do we do that? What are some interesting experiences we have had dealing with muggles?

Show Notes

OMG Funny

  • Missed Connections

Topics

  • “Muggles” are vanilla folk
  • Many vanilla people are very curious when they see guys wearing gear
  • Stories dealing with muggles
  • How to deal with annoying muggles
  • Strength in numbers
  • How much info to share with muggles
  • Don’t take shit from people

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Silicone Sounds.

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Episode 171 – Talking Shit and Stuff

Today is Take Out the Trash Day.* We keep a list of kinky topics that we don’t think will fill a full episode or that we don’t think we can find a guest. So join us for a grab bag of different kinks.

Show Notes

In the News

Topics

  • Scat
  • Hair
  • Racism
  • Rape Fantasies
  • Castration
  • Long Distance/Cybersex

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Fleshjack GO! Travel Buddy.

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* That’s a West Wing reference, for all of you youngsters.

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Ungagged Episode 08 – One-Sided Fight Club

2016 is the Year of the Butt Stuff. ‘Nuff said.

Except when it’s about flogging. And it’s all about flogging for this entire episode of the Ungagged Podcast. If you’ve ever wondered about getting flogged — or even flogging someone else — the puppies talk about the various aspects of flogging for those who haven’t done it before.

Show Notes

Game

  • Steakhouse or Gay Bar?

Topics

  • Butt play episode feedback.
  • Why do guys like to get beaten?
  • Different sensations with flogging
  • How do get to the place where you’re mean enough to beat someone?
  • Music and flogging
  • Endorphins, endorphins, endorphins
  • Trust and communication
  • Endorphin crash
  • Aftercare and what to do if the skin is broken
  • Areas of the body to avoid when flogging
  • Different kinds of materials in floggers

Sponsor

Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Mid Size Standard Flogger.

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