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Episode 27 – Spanking

A listener sent in a letter regarding some questions about spanking (see below) that inspired us to talk about spanking for a few minutes. We invited on Boy Trav to talk about his experiences. Like many episodes, it really felt like there was so much more we could talk about, but we still cover quite a bit.

If you have any questions about spanking, want to share your own stories or comment on anything we said, be sure to send in a mail to the show!

Show Notes

In the News

Listener Letter

I came across an interesting article which claimed correlations between childhood spanking and sadomasochism. Here’s the link; the area in mention is under the section “Spanking and psychosexual development”. Can’t speak for everyone, but I wasn’t spanked as a child, yet I love to be beat like a SOB. Was wondering if you had an opinion about this article. http://nospank.net/sexdngrs.htm. Thanks, Jeff.

P.S. I love the show!! So grateful for all your informative, humorous info on all things kink. Keep it up!!    =))

About Our Guest

Boy Trav recently relocated to the Seattle area from Maine. Since he was a teenager, he has been into ABDL, spanking, and kink. He is excited to live in the Seattle area where he has many more opportunities to explore his sexuality as well as make more friends that understand his kinks. Find him on Twitter and Recon.

 

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Episode 26 – ABDL

Over Memorial weekend, Sparky’s boy moved in to the house, beginning a new step in the relationship between Boy Trav and his Daddy.  We have been excited to do a show about one of the big kinks Trav has had in his life, that being an ABDL (Adult Baby/Diaper Lover).

We try to take a journey of exploring this topic from the ground up, talking about what this is about and some of the basics, but then we wanted to take some time to talk about the headspace involved and the relationship between a Daddy and his little one.

This was an incredibly personal show that we are so happy to bring to you.

 

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

  • What is ABDL (and what isn’t it)?
  • Diapers, supplies and the other things you need
  • Communities
    • What is the ABDL community like?
    • How does it integrate into other kink communities?
  • Personal Stories
    • Travis’s discovery
    • Sparky’s discovery
  • Headspace

About Our Guest

Boy Trav recently relocated to the Seattle area from Maine. Since he was a teenager, he has been into ABDL, spanking, and kink. He is excited to live in the Seattle area where he has many more opportunities to explore his sexuality as well as make more friends that understand his kinks. Find him on Twitter and Recon.

 

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Episode 25 – Serious Bondage

Anyone that is a fan of Serious Male Bondage will remember seeing our own Daddy Tony and Mikey playing in several scenes on the site. They have been friends with the team over at Serious Bondage for a few years now.

When Dalton and Obsidian decided to stop in Seattle on the first leg of their vacation, it was obvious to ask them to come on the show. Even after driving all day up from San Francisco, they were still willing to join us for a night of just bondage discussion.

We cover a lot of different angles, and we learn a lot about what it takes to do bondage in both a personal and work balance. We had a lot of fun with this one!

 

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

About Our Guests

Dalton and Obsidian have been serious players for many years, as well as being married. They started Serious Bondage to help further the cause of open sexuality and safe bondage for bondage’s sake. They’ve made a serious business by posting play images and videos on their website of their own play as well as that of their friends. Find them at Serious Bondage (M/F) or Serious Male Bondage (M/M).

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Episode 24 – Balancing a Kink Life

You will have to check out the letter below, a letter from a listener asking us about how we keep a balance of our kink life with our normal lives, so we take a few moments to explain how we keep the balance in our lives, and sometimes when we don’t.

This is a personal episode about us that we were looking forward to sharing!

 

Show Notes

In the News

Listener Letter

 Hey, Boundsock45 again. Thought I submit my question in a more formal way this time around rather then sending it to your guys recon’s instead. I just listened to your guys most recent podcast, which was great by the way, but something came to mind that I was curious about. How do you guys (and forgive me if this doesn’t make sense or whatever) balance the kinky side of your guys life with the normal stuff that goes on or does it just blur into perfect harmony? For me (at least for the time being) I try to keep my parents completely in the dark about my gay/kinkyness and try to keep all that stuff completely out of my normal life. If you guys get a chance,  I would love to hear your guys answer.

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Episode 23 – Twisted Monk

A couple of years ago, Sparky got some Twisted Monk rope from his partner Damien for Christmas, and that is the only rope we have used since then. It is high quality rope that we absolutely love to use for all kinds of scenes.

One of the great parts of being in Seattle is that we have some very interesting Kinksters, so we had to bring in Monk knowing he is just down the road from us. We talk all about rope, how its made, and about quality differences in rope.

You have to check this one out, it was a wild one!

 

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

  • Live Show Report from the IML contest – Dreadfire
  • How did you get into rope as a kink?
  • Why did you start selling it?
  • Recommendations on rope
  • How novices should learn how to use it better
  • How to take care of it and make good rope last
  • Advice on working with rope in general

About Our Guest

Monk is the proprietor of Twisted Monk, which makes high quality hemp rope made especially for the use of binding humans. He lives in Seattle with his wife. Check out his merch at twistedmonk.com.

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Episode 22 – Kinky Health Questions

The last episode we focused on STI’s and HIV, but we had a number of listeners send in general health questions. We are really excited to bring you this information, which is varied and very interesting.

Karen was great on the mic and we are so grateful that she joined us for the show. And as we mentioned on the show, we are going to have her back on a regular basis, so be sure to keep sending in your questions or issues and we will talk about them!

Site back and enjoy!

 

Show Notes

In the News

About Our Guest

Karen Dykes is a nurse practitioner that specializes in infectious diseases, STI’s, and HIV. She lives in Seattle.

 

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Episode 21 – Spreading (the word about) STDs

Thanks to a listener suggestion, we pulled together some experts on STI’s. Turns out we had two readily available to us. First is a good friend of TJ (listen to him and Brett on Episode 9) who is a local N.P. specializing in Infectious Disease and HIV. Karen Dykes (yes that is her name!) in fun and funny, and we couldn’t think of anyone better that could come talk to us from a health care provider point of view.

Also, Daddy Tony has spent many years as a volunteer and as a professional peer educator in the San Francisco community. He comes armed with years of experience talking about STDs and HIV from all kinds of backgrounds, including gay and kinky communities, so having his voice as a part of the show is critical perfect and I know he was very happy to be able to provide this information.

We made reference to some resources that are out there, which we will post up later this week in a new post. And be sure to check the show notes section for a reference to a TEDx talk about a possible public health message regarding reducing the spread of STDs sent in by Fossil9 (Thanks much Fossil!).

 

Show Notes

In the News

Listener Letter

A listener sent in the following mail that prompted us to start preparing for this show. The mail was:

I love the show and have been looking for this kind of show for a long time, and look forward to every episode. Can you do a myth of STD’s or a STD tip that would be great. I am a social worker and would love to recommend your podcast to my “let’s talk sex” Group.

Discussion Topics

  • Resources
  • There is more than HIV
  • Prevention Tips
  • HIV
  • PREP
  • Window of exposure
  • “Clean”?
  • TEDx: Rule of Three Discussion

About Our Guest

Karen Dykes is a nurse practitioner that specializes in infectious diseases, STD’s, and HIV. She lives in Seattle.

 

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Episode 20 – Stomper

Sparky has known Stomper for a very long time, and there has been some sort of connection between the two. The connection has come in many forms, so we explore where it started, where it went, and the surprising turn it took lately. You want a show with everything, this is it.

Religion. Sex. Rubber. Bondage. Puppies. Furries. ABDL. Daddies.

We have a great time exploring this story, and hope you enjoy it as well! While you are at it, be sure to check out PupZone.com as resource and social gathering place for puppies of all types. And check out the great rubber profiles, pics and videos at Rubberzone.com! Also during the show we make reference to a previous post on the NoSafeWord blog regarding using a sock for putting j-lube on latex, so go check that out HERE.

Show Notes

In the News

About Our Guest

Claiming Portlandia as home, Stomper shares a life and home with his husband of 12 years, Squirm who created rubberzone.com. Stomper has a wide range of kinks he enjoys which is growing all the time! He’s been a long time friend of Sparky’s and the NoSafeWord family and he’s excited to be a part of the show. Find him on Twitter and at PupZone.com.

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Episode 19 – Pup Topher

For this one, we talk with a long time friend of ours, Pup Topher, who we have referred to on the show as Pup Chris. He is the puppy to Daddy Chuck, who introduced Damien and Sparky to him.

He has had quite the journey for coming out and discovering kink, as well as just trying to learn how to communicate while in a relationship. He lived all over, had a variety of jobs and not so great relationships, so we get down and dirty into find all about it. It is an interesting story.

Hope you enjoy it as much as we did!

 

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

  • Growing up gay in Texas
  • Getting bankrupted from the first boyfriend
  • Booking strippers
  • Second relationship with a military man (married)
  • Becoming a boy to a “master”
  • Back to the military man
  • Communication in relationships

About Our Guestpup topher close up

Pup Topher, otherwise known as Puppy Chris, grew up in a ‘red state’ and took a different path to self actualization. After a slow start and coming out later than most people do today, he ended up booking strippers, tending in a gay bar and being a kept boy. Throughout that he learned a couple of lessons about communication, relationships and making sure you can stand on your own. And while he’s always enjoyed being a sub, he’s also learned that it doesn’t mean being a victim.

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Episode 18 – Daddy Jeff, Part 2

For part 2 of this interview we delve into more about the history of creating the local leather group here in Seattle, which I think can be helpful for anyone creating a leather group out there. We also talk about community building and volunteering, what it is like for newbies getting started, and passing down of leathers.

We were very excited to have Daddy Jeff on and very much enjoyed getting to know him a bit more! Hope you do as well!

 

Show Notes

Discussion Topics

  • Daddy Jeff has been a survivor
  • He has survived and thrived with the help of Dan “Puppy” Daniels, his partner of 20+ years.
  • Daddy Jeff is the Founder of Seattle Men in Leather (1989) and Owner of Doghouse Leathers.
  • Currently, he is the President of the Washington State Mr/Ms Leather Organization
  • Jeff has a long history in the leather community

About Our Guest

Living life and taking on those who seek to understand how we got here and where we might be going on this magical journey we call Leather. Daddy Jeff can best be described as a survivor. Starting in 1981, he has survived producing way too many fundraisers and contests, serving on numerous boards and committees, being a neighborhood activist, a historian, managing a large nightclub and owning a leather shop, two leather titles, HIV and one near death bout of Fungal Meningitis. He has survived and thrived with the help of Dan “Puppy” Daniels, his partner of 20+ years.

Daddy Jeff is the Founder of Seattle Men in Leather (1989), Seattle largest Men’s Club, a Manager of The Cuff Complex and Owner of Doghouse Leathers. Currently, he is the President of the Washington State Mr/Ms Leather Organization. He has been working with the Mr/Ms Leather and the Drummer/LeatherSir titles for over 25 years now. Jeff was Seattle Leather Daddy 1998 and was honored with the title of Seattle Leather Grand Dad 2012 based on his history of being a mentor. He is a member of Mama’s Family, LA&M, and is the Patriarch of the Bear Clan.

Find Daddy Jeff on Twitter and Facebook.

 

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Episode 17 – Daddy Jeff, Part 1

We have been looking forward to this interview for sometime, and so glad we were able to get Daddy Jeff to come join us!

Daddy Jeff has been in the leather BDSM community for years, having started Seattle Men in Leather 25 years ago, and been a part of the kink history in the Pacific Northwest. We spend some time learning about Jeff’s personal history and his partner “Puppy”. We talk about community and community building, and the leather bar culture from his perspective.

Now, NoSafeWord is not just a Seattle show, we are talking to people from all over the world, but at the same time we wanted to honor Jeff’s recent retirement from Head of Security at the Cuff. But even more so, we think that there is an interesting comparison that can be made between what it is like now for kinksters in the community and what it was like back when some of these communities are just getting started.

So sit back and enjoy, we get into a lot! And join us in a few days for the second part of this great interview!

Be sure to read the great article about Jeff written by Tyesha Best on Leatherati.

 

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

  • Seattle Leather History,
  • Bars Clubs and More,
  • Building Communities One Bottom At a Time,
  • Mentoring
  • Titles
  • About his store, Dog House Leathers

About Our Guest

Living life and taking on those who seek to understand how we got here and where we might be going on this magical journey we call Leather. Daddy Jeff can best be described as a survivor. Starting in 1981, he has survived producing way too many fundraisers and contests, serving on numerous boards and committees, being a neighborhood activist, a historian, managing a large nightclub and owning a leather shop, two leather titles, HIV and one near death bout of Fungal Meningitis. He has survived and thrived with the help of Dan “Puppy” Daniels, his partner of 20+ years.

Daddy Jeff is the Founder of Seattle Men in Leather (1989), Seattle largest Men’s Club, a Manager of The Cuff Complex and Owner of Doghouse Leathers. Currently, he is the President of the Washington State Mr/Ms Leather Organization. He has been working with the Mr/Ms Leather and the Drummer/LeatherSir titles for over 25 years now. Jeff was Seattle Leather Daddy 1998 and was honored with the title of Seattle Leather Grand Dad 2012 based on his history of being a mentor. He is a member of Mama’s Family, LA&M, and is the Patriarch of the Bear Clan.

Find Daddy Jeff on Twitter and Facebook.

 

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Episode 16 – Furries!

When we were recording Episode 15, we had in the audience a couple of our furry friends, Nightcat and Argi, who both agreed to talk to us about what it is like to be furries.

Now in this episode, there are times when we asked questions that may sound like we were coming at an angle that some furries may not like, and I get that. What we were hoping to do was to get down to some of the feelings that keep some in the kink world from making judgments of our furry brothers, or vice versa. Sometimes it is good to ask the tough questions, and I think that there will be more of them in future episodes.

At the same time, it is our usual format of cray cray fun for most of it, so sit back and enjoy!

 

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

  • What are Furries?
  • How did you both get into furrydom?
  • What do you identify as in fur?
  • About that “awkward” conversation

 

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Episode 15 – Pup Snuggles

We got to spend some time to talk with one of the pups that we all here at NoSafeWord have had the chance to get to know over the years, Pup Snuggles. Not only is he a very cute puppy, he is also one of those people that reaches out to many people across the kink world to try to help in any way he can, either through the organizations he is a part of or one person at a time.

We spend some time getting to know Snuggles and where came from, as well as have a great conversation about what his kink family dynamic is like. We were looking forward to having him on and hope you enjoy learning about him as much as we did!

 

Show Notes

In the News

Discussion Topics

About Our Guest

Pup Snuggles has been part of the leather community since IML in 2006 and has avidly researched the leather lifestyle ever since. He has been with his Sir, Victor, since before learning about the leather community and it has strengthened their relationship as well as making him a stronger person and pup. In addition to being with his Sir, they have another loving member of their poly family, Solomon.

Pup Snuggles is the co-founder of Chicago Puppy Patrol, founder for International Pups and Handlers, previous President for Bloomington Kink, a photographer, graphic designer, website designer, massage therapist, and renaissance reenactor. He holds the following titles: Indiana Leather boy 2010 and Great Lakes Leather boy 2011.

Find Pup Snuggles on Facebook, Recon, and Tumblr.

 

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Episode 13 – Last Few Inches with Hypnosis

After the end of the last episode with Neil, we had put out to our listeners the opportunity to ask Neil some questions about hypnosis, and we received several really great questions. So, we scheduled this show as the follow up to go a little deeper into the subject.

We hope you enjoy this episode, it was another fun discussion!

 

Show Notes

In the News

Listener Questions

  • KinkZombie – Hello my rubber and leather bound cock floggers, Could Mr.Hypno give some resources for getting started with hypno? I have seen sites like WarpMyMind but the whole thing has an insider baseball feel. Any books, websites or anything else would be appreciated. (Neil refers to a book by  C. Roy Hunter – The Art of Hypnosis)
  • Cubskin – Hey Guys. Loving the new format podcast… Still got a couple to catch up with but had skipped ahead to ep6 with Neil and the hypno discussion as I had a meet arranged this week with a top also very much into this area. The Top has plenty of experience but unfortunately he was unable to get me to go under properly in our first play and we are going to try again but I guess my question for Neil is this something he comes across frequently and does he have any tips for me to help me relax and get into the right frame of mind? Working in IT I have quite an active/analytical mind which I guess doesn’t help… Don’t think I’m gonna be picked by any stage hypnotizes anytime soon lol
  • Dan – I was hoping you could ask Neil about what goes on during a paid erotic session. I’m a straight man with a hypno fetish who is very interested in an experience similar to what was described in this article: http://www.vice.com/read/erotic-hypnosis-gave-me-the-most-intense-orgasm-of-my-life . I have also wanted to know what it feels like to be a woman, is that possible with hypnosis?
  • Jpup1 aka Jordan – Hey guys, Here are a few questions about hypno for some more info
    • 1. Is there any way to leave hypnotic suggestions in place for longer periods of time than just a single session? For example cues and behaviors that help someone get into pup space easier or something?
    • 2. What are your thoughts about self hypnosis tracks like those offered on warpmymind.com
    • 3. Is there any way to combine erotic hypno and self improvement hypno at the same time?
    • 4. Are there any downsides to doing hypnosis? Other than malicious persons who would take advantage of you while you were in the trance
    • 5. Can you use hypnosis to help enforce chastity for a sub without a physical device?
  • Nightcat – Hello. I figured I would email you both my questions. So a little back ground: I’ve always been a little skeptical about hypnotism and whether it can really work or not. But I’ve always found the idea of it very hot. Now, after hearing the podcast, I really want to try it.
    • So, about 4 years ago my mom was diagnosed with emphysema. She tried everything in the book to quit smoking. As a last resort she tried hypnosis. Her first session she went into a deep sleep rather quickly. The hypnotist said my mom was super easy to get to go under. The hypnosis worked after a few sessions and she no longer smokes or has any desire to.
    • So my question: Is how your mind works hereditary. You see over and over again children picking up personality traits from their parents. Is it possible that because my mom went into the trance so easily that I could as well?
    • My next question is: There is a local group of Furs in the Seattle area that dabble in hypnosis. Nothing professional. I’m curious about going to them to get some experience. Neil touched a little bit on it and said it was fairly safe. I want to make sure that there is nothing that could accidentally go wrong with someone who doesn’t really know what they are doing. I’m a big fan about playing safe in all things that I do.

About Our Guest

Neil has been doing hypnosis since 2001, at first as a hobby (and tool of sexual exploration) and since 2009, as a full-time job. Practicing hypnosis lead him to discover his dominant side and explore the BDSM world. Neil lives in New York City. Find him on TwitterRecon, and his blog The Erotic Hypnotist.

 

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