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Episode 230 – Dental Damn

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Let’s talk about news, news, and more news…including travel news from Daddy Tony.

 Show Notes

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Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Fleshlight Turbo Thrust, just $69.95:

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Episode 229 – Clique Schisms, Part 2

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In the heat of the end of summer, we are here to update you on the craziness of the last week.

 Show Notes

  • In the News
    • Man lands modeling career thanks to his genetically rare different colored eyes seen on his mugshot posted on Twitter.
    • Kathy Griffin is no longer sorry about the famous photo of a fake severed head of Donald Trump.
    • The “crying nazi” speaks out about his mistreatment by the public.
    • Male sex workers get sometimes bizarre requests from their Johns.
  • We continue our discussion of a Telegram chat by a listener from Episode 229 – Clique Schisms, Part 1
    • We discussed this letter from the perspective of defending the boys’ point of view. Now we wanted to discuss the other side of the argument.
    • Using the term “sleazy” marks a view of older men hitting on younger men that shows a bias against older men
    • Age range preferences posted on profiles publicly is discriminatory and denegrating
    • Sparky and Tony discuss some of their experiences with older men and now as older men with younger boys.
    • Sometimes men, regardless of age, can be sleazy. Older men are sometimes painted with a broad brush.
    • Infighting among our community is counterproductive to our shared common goals.
    • We should do what we can to eliminate “Us vs. Them”

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Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Blue Camo Kilt!

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Episode 228 – Clique Schisms, Part 1

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In the heat of the end of summer, we are here to update you on the craziness of the last week.

 Show Notes

  • What Now? 
  • In the News
    • There was a death at a British kink festival in the woods, Flamefest. There were nipple tassles, witches, and hedonism.
    • Queer Cripple Andrew Gurza is building the group DisabilityAfterDark to open up about the intersection of disability and sex.
    • When introducing your pubescent children to sex, don’t for get anal intercourse. Don’t expect your school’s teachers to broach this topic appropriately.
  • With a Telegram chat message from a listener, “My leather club is having a midlife crisis?” we discuss cliques in the gay kink community.
    • Certain kinks and sub-communities draw certain age groups and personalities of people
    • Puppies are a great place for younger and less experienced kinksters to join, and some older guard groups  feel resentment for the loss of past ways boys would publicly join the leather community
    • Gender bending boys still see widespread ostracism from the leather community as well, even as attitudes improve
    • We must evolve for the future, we cannot hold onto purely past ways of doing things and expect them to carry into the future
    • Leather contests need to be brought into a modern day purpose
    • Certain traditions like collars are evolving and shouldn’t be used as a wedge to push new people out of the community.

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Featured photo is Mr. Leatherman Toronto 2016 Jeremy Feist (left), Toronto Puppy 2016 “Pup Benny” (center), and International Person of Leather 2016/Ms. Leather Toronto 2016 Shahrazad (right) courtesy of the Black Eagle Kennel Klub.

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Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Striker Singlet!

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Ungagged Episode 25 – Mellow Yellow

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The pups spend this show discussing things piss play related! And this little piggy went we-we-we all the way home!

Show Notes

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Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature Versatile Phone Holder.

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Episode 226 – Mentors, the Fresh Maker

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The guys spend the show discussing mentorship: being one and how to find one.

 Show Notes

  • What Now? 
  • In the News
  • Mentorship can be an explicit or an implicit relationship
    • There is always the explicit Sir/boy type of relationship
    • On the other hand, some mentors do not even realize they are mentors
  • Has mentorship, over time, gone down because of the Internet?
  • Mentorship does not have to be just “showing someone the ropes.” Mentors can also impart more advanced knowledge to those who are not beginners.
  • Being a mentor is not about acting like a superior person. Authenticity is extremely important, not putting on airs.
  • Seeking a mentor:
    • Carefully consider who your mentors will be.
    • As said before, it does not have to be an explicitly-stated thing. Just being around that person is sufficient. In other words, no awkward, formal request to a potential mentor is necessary.
  • What do you look for in a mentor? Send us a message at info@nosafeword.com and let us talk about it.

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Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Jock Holster Bone, just $89.95:

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Ungagged Episode 24 – The More the Merrier

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The pups spend this show discussing group sex, group dynamics, and how to make your group experiences the best they can.

Show Notes

  • In the News
  • Group Sex
    • The pups start out small and talk about threesomes.
      • Are two-as-a-team strictly pleasuring the other the best way to have a threesome?
      • A common reason against any group sex: too much going on and too much concentration needed.
    • Play parties
      • The mood of each party can be very different…so keep your expectations reasonable.
      • With lots of other scenes going on around you, it can be a problem if you are easily distracted by sound.
      • There is always going to be a better chance of drama when more people are involved, so be ready and be calm.
      • If it is a party of 8 or more people, then be sure the party has a separate, more social space.
      • Reasonable expectations, but have some expectations and have a plan of how to make that happen.
      • How do you deal with the guy who won’t take no for an answer? Be direct. Try to be polite, but say it in no uncertain terms..

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Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature Saddle Soap.

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Episode 214 – Cock Holster

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In the age of Trump, it’s a great time to re-examine the idea of political correctness in the scope of all the crazy news lately.

 Show Notes

  • What Now? Stephen Colbert, long time champion of gay rights, is raked over the coals for a crude joke. Is “PC culture” starting to chase its own tail? Also: Conservatives erupt in faux outrage over gay rights to try to weaken their progressive opponent. Here’s Colbert’s joke in context. #notfirecolbert
  • In the News
    • According to a “study,” just thinking about sex makes you want to have it more! Amazing!
    • Man will serve at least 30 years in prison after beating to death a man who responded to an online ad for sex.
    • What leads people to kink? Are we born with our twisted desires? Thought for the nerds: Are kinksters a Protected Class under the Civil Rights Act of 1964? Lets check back in 10 years.
    • Dolphins have kinky sex. And scientists are paid to watch. Hawt!
    • The drunker a straight guy is, the more likely he’ll find a guy hot.

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Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Thick-Walled Cock Cylinder:

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Episode 213 – Savage on Consent

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Dan Savage returns to the podcast as a guest, and we talk about consent.

 Show Notes

  • What Now? Dan presents it this week, and mentions three organizations that really could use our donations: ACLU, Planned Parenthood, and the International Refugee Assistance Project.
  • In the News: Sadly, stealthing is the newest, dangerous sex trend…for straight people.
  • We receive a letter asking for advice from Dan about a violation of consent from a prominent member of their local kink community.
  • The discussion moves into consent in general.
    • Having “the talk” before going in. A too-long talk can make the scene less passionate.
    • How you give “the talk.” It can be given in a reassuring, positive, and inclusive way.
    • Practice makes perfect…with the same person. You will read each other more readily without having to vocalize things, and trust between the two grows with each new experience with each other.
    • Consent given during a sexual experience that was previously out-of-bounds…not to be taken lightly.
    • Straight folks new to kink may be at a slight disadvantage compared to the gay male community…since gay men tend to first ask “what are you into?” since there is not one activity assumed to be part of gay sex.
    • Sometimes, consent given even well-before a scene could still be a negative time, but the consolation prize is that the person who gave the consent learned what they did not like.
    • Finally, if you are on the extreme side of kink activities, maybe an e-mail or text exchange stating what is consented to is a good idea.

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Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Padded Scream Mitts:

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About Our Guest

Dan Savage is a sex advice columnist, activist, author, and podcaster from Seattle. Listen to his podcast The Savage Lovecast and read his writing on The Stranger at The Savage Love and SLOG.

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Ungagged Episode 22 – The Best Played Plans

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The best play scenes involve planning, but too much can ruin spontaneity. In this episode of Ungagged, the puppies talk about how that balance can be achieved without thinking you are in a business meeting while you play.

Show Notes

  • In the News
  • Making Play Scenes Hot but Not Scripted
    • Even if it seems overkill, making a full itinerary can still be very helpful, especially for newer subs.
    • Scenes involving VR can be especially fun, but it really involves a lot of planning and setup since you really do not want to fiddle with it during the scene.
    • Having a good electro-stim scene also involves a lot of planning….namely seeing what the limits are for each participant beforehand to avoid boredom or too much pain.
    • Each participant also should plan ahead for what their bodies will be doing during the scene.
      • If you will be bottoming, then you want to be sure you are clean down there.
      • If you will be in a particular position for any length of time, then you should be sure that your body and your muscles are fit enough to stay in that position.
    • The Golden Rule does not always apply: The dom may want to put their assumptions away on what will feel good to the sub and ask a lot of questions to the sub on what feels good and what does not.
    • The Boy Scout Rule: Be prepared! Everything will not work during a scene, so have some alternatives prepared to substitute in just in case something breaks or something is not feeling good to a participant.
    • Home Field Advantage: Planning and executing a scene goes a lot easier when you are familiar with the space you are playing in. The dom in a scene playing at home will be better prepared for the unexpected since they know where everything is.
    • If you are planning a scene in a place that is not the home of a participant, then pack well! Have everything you need in your “bag of tricks” and know where everything is in your bag for quick access.

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Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Leather Head Cushion.

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Episode 210 – Ghostly Reject

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When we are out there in the world of kink we run into people that are not going to be into us. Or people who are into us that we are not into. And then we have a choice.

Do we ignore them? Do they ignore us? Do we just ghost away and pretend it never happened?

Or are we honest with them and say we just aren’t into them? Do we want someone to be honest with us when they are not into us?

Of course there is no one answer and it really depends on the situation, but it happens so much we need to talk about it! Come take a listen.

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Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Wireless Vibrating Dildo Suction Cup: Available in 7″ base for $81.95 and 8″ base for $87.95.

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Ungagged Episode 21 – You Wanna Be A Star, Don’cha?

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Have you ever thought of doing porn, or what it might be like? We share some of our limited experiences and much more we have learned from friends and others in the community around us to help you if you have considered acting in or producing porn.

Show Notes

  • In the News
  • So, you want to be a porn star?
    • What is porn?
    • Creating porn is work and not always fun
    • Mikey had a little experience with filming for kink.com
    • Consider the kind of porn that would be the best fit for you personally, don’t do it just for fame.
    • Be ready to promote your own stuff if you want it to be noticed.
    • Care about the quality
    • Research the software you’ll need for editing
    • What will be your porn identity? Amateur vs. Professional?

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Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Wolf Collar.

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Ungagged Episode 20 – Double Male-Bag

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Now that we’ve hit 20 episodes of the Ungagged podcast, its time for another dip into the mailbag (last time was Episode 10!). Before we do that, we run down some very important stories of the day.

Show Notes

  • In the News
    • Fascist Furries find themselves unwelcome in polite fur-ciety.
    • Every woman needs a healing crystal dildo by Chakrubs for the ultimate in luxury stone age masturbation.
    • Finally, the world’s prayers have been answered. We’ll now all have the same set of unintelligible toilet iconography to try to understand while sitting on the shitter.
    • Dude, bro! Come check out my SCUBA bong! What could go wrong?
  • Listener Letters
    • A listener from the wilds of Western Washington thanks us for helping them feel more a part of the community even in relative isolation
    • Next, we answer some questions about J-Lube recipes. Add Methylcellulose for a thicker viscosity. Use salt for easier cleanup. Check out Drew’s recipe of Lion Cream Lube for more.
    • A listener in a dark place asks for advice with a newly polyamorous relationship that has not turned out as they hoped.
    • Frederik, a.k.a. ToyTorture, writes us about some further information about E-stim safety.
    • PiercedLeather asks the pups about how to achieve sub headspace.
    • A UPah pup writes us to share his connection with the show
    • The pups give advice to a listener with a really tight hole that needs some stretching help.
    • A listener loves the affirmation of knowing their not alone in their perversions, we love them too!

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Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Frisky Rubber Pup Hood.

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Episode 204 – The Postman Cometh

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Time to open up the ole (e)mail bag! Sparky and Daddy Tony read listener messages and discuss everything from leaving quickly after sex to pansexuality.

Show Notes

  • Now What? Yes, Trump fatigue has set in a bit. Fight that feeling by supporting the organizations that support us. This week, we feature Planned Parenthood.It isn’t just for women! Donate or see how you can take action in support of Planned Parenthood.
  • Leaving for Las Vegas (and other places.) Kink.com is leaving San Francisco.
  • Half-Night Stands: Maybe the rest of the world is finally catching up with gay men.
  • Older kinksters are (still) awesome. Sparky and Daddy Tony read a listener message thanking us for Episode 161 – Into Older? It Depends and talk about good times with older gentlemen in younger days.
  • Barebacking love from a latex allergy? Our second listener message wonders if they knew about their latex allergy sooner and started using polyurethane condoms, then maybe they would not have been so much into barebacking.
  • Positive Depictions of Kink in Film. A British listener lets us know that one example of a kink-positive scene in a film would be a Spanish film called Bear Cub.
  • Our Listeners…Their Cocks. We love appreciative listeners…and their dick pics.
  • A Non-Binary Queer Male Reaches Out. This listener thanks us for Episode
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    and laments the lack of resources for those of pansexual orientation online and looks for a sense of community.

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Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Stump n’ Dump.

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Episode 203 – Harshing My Buzz

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Sex, drugs, and beating balls. On this episode we have a discussion with Ungagged hosts Drew and Mikey about drugs, sex and kink. We go down a list of the most popular drugs and talk about our experiences of each. Some of them are awesome and totally safe to use in a controlled situation, others you had best steer clear!

Show Notes

  • Introducing Now What? our new recurring segment for the show. We decided in this new political era to take proactive action to protect our rights.
  • Sparky runs down a list of Senators to target, support, and watch to get ready for the next midterm election in 2018.
  • Our topic is drug use in kink play and sex. We are exploring this topic to be open beyond the stigma and share our own experiences from the past.
  • Pot has so many code words! As it is legalized, it is becoming a lot more common as a part of sex the way that alcohol has been. “I have introduced plenty of people to pot for the first time!” “Tell me more about it, Bill Cosby?”
  • Heroin or opium has strong effects and is very addictive. It’s dangerous to use in risky sexual situations and the effects are so strong that we would never suggest or consider it for sexual play (or for any other use).
  • “I love me some cocaine, if there was some cocaine here right now I would snort it!” We take a trip back to the 80’s and talk about why coke isn’t terrible in general. However it’s not completely compatible with sex or kink play for everyone. It can kill your boner.
  • Methamphetamine have similar effects to cocaine, but much more addictive. It can have devastating effects with long-term use. We don’t recommend trying it and won’t play with others using it.
  • Party drugs like MDMA and Ecstasy makes everything in the world feel sexy, except maybe sex itself. Some say it makes for the best sex they ever had. There’s an alphabet soup of different cocktails and combos of drugs that some think have the best feeling, but generally you’ll have to pay for the pleasure on the other end. “She took her shirt off… and I remember playing with her boobs and having the best time!” 
  • K. This special drug was developed to knock out horses. You can fall into a K hole and just be happy existing. It probably will make you boring, which isn’t very sexy. Similar drugs are PCP and Salvia. They get you disoriented and you will make bad choices.
  • Hallucinogens make every boring situation seem exciting thanks to the phantom dicks popping out of every surface. Some really love sex with them, although it’s not compatible with most kink play. “That can be the worst 20 minutes of your life trying to eat a bag of mushrooms.” 
  • Know your environment and don’t over-do it. Do your research and talk to a friend. Keep this number and call for help if it is not an emergency: U.S. Poison Control Hotline 1-800-222-1222. Visit Drugslab on YouTube to see some scientifically presented visuals of the effects of different drugs.

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Mr. S Leather Co.

This episode sponsored by: Mr. S Leather. For this episode we feature the Bluetooth Remote Control Butt Plug.

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